10 Tips to Win Back the Heart of a Virgo Man

You’ll know when a Virgo man wants you back. He’ll reach out to you first. He may have a list of criticisms or things for you to work on.

This can be annoying, but it’s his way of showing he loves you. A Virgo man always comes back. At the very least, he’s trying to help you improve.

Trust that he’s working on himself as well. He may not always announce it. A Virgo man, after a breakup, will analyze tedious details of the relationship in order to fix it.

1. Don’t Chase Him, Give Him Space at First

This is essential. Give him space to think. A Virgo man keeps coming back for two reasons. One, obviously is that he loves you. The other is that he looks at the relationship like a computer that needs trouble-shooting.

If one thing doesn’t work, he’ll come back ready to try something different. He’s not one to give up when he’s really in love. If you try to contact him too soon, he won’t have the problems solved in his mind yet.

This, to him, is like being rushed when he’s working on a project or cooking a meal. It’s counterproductive and it will exacerbate his anxiety. “Do Virgos go back to their ex?” You may wonder.

Sometimes, but his preference is to finish what he’s started with you. It’s highly unlikely that he’s gone off to rekindle a romance from the past. If he was interested in his ex he would likely have gotten closure before moving on with you.

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2. Maintain Your Stability

If you really want to know how to reconnect with a Virgo man, understand that getting his interest begins with you. Whatever you do, keep yourself on solid ground.

Don’t fall into despair and start binging on ice-cream and sleeping until noon. Don’t drop your routines and hobbies. If anything, become more invested in what makes you feel good about yourself. He’s still watching from a distance.

When he sees that you are still taking good care of your health, finances, work and other routines, he’ll wonder if maybe he made a mistake. He’ll see how you maintain your dignity when heartbroken and realize this is what he wants in a woman.

Don’t air your deep angst on social media. He’s repelled by drama. Instead do whatever you can to maintain your strength and stability. Let him see that you really are solid and grounded.

When he reaches out, and he will, ignore your Virgo man if you are in the middle of something important. In other words, don’t drop everything to respond right away. You are now fitting him into your schedule. Let him see you are busy and productive.

3. Take Care of Your Physical and Practical Needs

When your heart is broken, the last thing you may be thinking about is going to the gym and sticking to your diet. You may feel completely unmotivated to cook healthy meals or take walks. Do it anyway.

These steps are essential not just to get him back but to empower yourself. Nurture yourself the same way you would if you were down with a cold. Be extra attentive to your body’s signals and needs. Don’t short change yourself now.

Not only is it the best way to care for and heal yourself but it is also essential to getting him back. He’s health conscious and will be more attracted to your vibrant energy than to see you withering away.

Don’t think you can lure him back through guilt by showing what a mess your life is without him. Doing this will only make him convinced that leaving was the right decision. He doesn’t want to come in to clean up a mess.

Instead show him you are getting yourself together and doing what is best for you. He’ll admire you for this. It will actually make him more attracted to you and he’ll want to be part of your life because he’ll see that you want him.

As opposed to needing him. Neediness is a turnoff for a Virgo man even when he loves you. He’ll be much happier to see that you want to be with him and that his presence in your life adds to your already stable foundation.

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4. Act Like a Good Friend

If you’re wondering how to get a Virgo man to forgive you, it takes time. He won’t come around immediately and voice his forgiveness just to clear up the past conflict. Whether he’s willing to forgive may depend on the nature of the transgression.

Sometimes its best to reconnect as friends for a while. This way you can show him through your actions that you are trying to make amends for the past. Verbal apologies may be appreciated but Virgo is all about actions not words.

Even if your desire is to get him back, try to focus on being a true friend. That means no strings attached, no expectations and no pressure. Remind him of your thoughtful, kind, conscientious nature.

Let him see that you’ve learned and grown and will not make the same mistakes again. One reason a Virgo man chooses to forgive is that he does see conflict as a learning opportunity. Show him that you’ve learned from the crisis.

5. Don’t Pressure Him

This point can’t be emphasized enough. No matter how tempting, don’t pressure him. Even if you’ve done everything you can to make amends. Even if you’ve shown him how incredibly perfect you are for him.

No matter what, let him take his time to get his emotions and plans aligned. He really needs to take space to analyze because he’s scouring over every detail of the relationship. It’s best to be patient.

Think of it like your relationship is a business and right now he is like an auditor. This doesn’t feel good, no one likes to be left waiting, but he’s doing his job. A Virgo man is like the auditor who comes into the business looking for any problems.

This is his nature. It’s what he is compelled to do without even intending to. He’s scanning and searching and recalling and counting and taking inventory and uncovering every little thing. He may do this in silence or communicate it as criticism.

Don’t take the criticism personally. Just like an auditor of a business, he’s trying to point out flaws so things can be changed to become more efficient and productive. He’s trying to make this a learning experience for both of you.

Let him run through his calculations and analysis. The fact that he’s even doing this is a good sign. If you’ve ever wondered how to know when a Virgo man is done with you, he won’t go to these lengths to improve the relationship.

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6. Show Him Your Intelligence

When you’ve reconnected and are trying to win him back, remind him of your intellectual strengths. Spend some of the time apart working on your interests and hobbies and also learning new things.

This way you’ll have new information to share, new skills to show him, new things to talk about. This will definitely draw him out more and get his interest.

Remind him that you are a savvy woman who is always learning new things. Remind him you’re a critical thinker and analyzer like he is. Show him you’ve been productive and your mind has been busy absorbing new knowledge.

Let your Virgo man see that you are a wealth of information on subjects he’s interested in as well. Read some books by his favorite authors. Take an interest in learning about his work. Show him you’ve done your homework to improve your connection.

7. Remind Him That You’re Paying Attention to the Details

Virgo men are patient, observant and detail oriented. They seldom meet others who are as attentive to detail as they are. Show him that you are different. You can easily stand out from the crowd by showing that you notice what he likes.

The way he separates out his food when you go to eat together, his favorite songs, the way he organizes his kitchen cupboards. Let him know you’ve been paying attention and you’ve noticed his preferences.

He’ll be amazed and feel humbled that you see him as worthy enough to notice these details. It will melt his heart to see that you noticed the trivia of his life when others easily overlook his understated nature.

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8. Don’t Get into Emotional Drama

The biggest thing to keep in mind is to avoid drama at all costs. Don’t air your business on social media. Don’t pick fights with him in public or online (or at all, ideally).

Don’t DM his family to try to get to him. Show him you are cool, level headed and calm. Don’t get your friends to contact him for you. If there is one thing a Virgo man has no tolerance for it’s manipulation.

Don’t get entangled in games to try to get his attention. Don’t use other guys to make him jealous or hint at interest in someone new unless you really want the relationship to end for good.

Act toward him the way you would toward a colleague at work. Be friendly, civil, professional. Vent your frustrations in private and show him a level, anchored personality in public.

9. Show Him You’ve Learned from Past Conflicts

Virgo is the reformer of the Zodiac. Show him you’ve taken lessons from the conflicts in the past and that you’ve changed your ways. Show him you’ve matured and advanced.

He’s much more likely to forgive when he sees you’ve learned from the problem and you’re working on fixing it. If he doesn’t see improvement, he’s got no reason to give the relationship another try.

He’s already working on self-improvement behind the scenes. He’ll show you this as you reconnect. Be aware his actions will speak for him, he may not come out and say what he’s doing differently. You’ll see for yourself.

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10. Be Consistent and Reliable

A Virgo man’s dream woman isn’t a model. She doesn’t stand out to him because of physical attributes. She’s the woman who is consistent and reliable.

Show him that you’re taking responsibility and control in your life. Let him see that your efforts are consistent. His worst nightmare is that he’ll get lured back in by promises and nothing will be different.

Show him steady efforts to make the relationship better by improving yourself. Keep making these efforts at improvement even as he lets his guard down.