Is Sleeping With Virgo Man Too Soon Problematic?

Virgo men tend to take a while to get into a relationship. They take their time developing trust. They want to make sure they are settling down with the right person.

This doesn’t mean Virgos wait until they are in a long-term relationship to have sex. He may very well have sex with somebody before the relationship talk happens.

If you are thinking about sleeping with him, examine your feelings first. Do you want a casual relationship? Are you only physically attracted to him or do you feel an emotional connection?

He Goes Slow

Dating a Virgo man is difficult sometimes. You might be ready to sleep together, move in together, etc., but he’s still a few steps behind.

Being patient with a Virgo man is vital if you want to progress your relationship. You need to understand that you’ll need to go at his pace if you want the relationship to go anywhere.

If you pressure him to do something before he’s ready, he won’t give in. He’s more likely to move on to somebody else who will respect him and his boundaries.

He might wait to have sex with you if he’s unsure about his feelings or if he thinks you two have different ideas about where the relationship is going.

If he thinks that you love him but he wants something more casual, he might not have sex with you because he doesn’t want to hurt you.

The opposite is true. He doesn’t want to have sex with a person he loves if they don’t love him back.

Getting a Virgo man into bed with you isn’t necessarily hard. He just might not want to dive right into a sexual relationship if he is developing feelings for you.

He wants to take his time and make sure the sex doesn’t ruin your budding relationship.

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He Needs Trust

Some Virgo men are fine with one-night stands and short-term flings. Not every single person who shares a sign is the same. However, many Virgos prefer to know somebody before they have sex with them.

Having sex with somebody requires some amount of trust. You are being vulnerable with another person. Even if the act is just about the sex and not with somebody you love, trust is still involved.

He is opening himself up to another person, even if it’s not necessarily in an emotional way. If he has any issues with his body, he might not want to show it to just anybody.

He is also opening himself up to judgment. Some people can be harsh if they think their partner is bad in bed. He doesn’t want to deal with criticism.

When he starts to trust you emotionally, that is one of the signs a Virgo man is falling for you. Even before that happens, you two should have some amount of trust between you before you sleep together.

Intimacy is Difficult

Some Virgos do not like being physically affectionate or intimate with people they don’t know well. If you two just met, you may not want to dive right into bed with him.

Don’t pressure him to be physically intimate until he is ready. Let him take the lead on that one.

If he already cares about you and you push, he might sleep with you before he’s ready. He can be a people-pleaser when it comes to people he loves.

He doesn’t want your opinion of him to change so he might do things he’s not comfortable with if you keep pushing.

If you want to have a long-term relationship with Virgo, take time to develop intimacy with him. If he isn’t even comfortable hugging you, he might not want to have sex. Wait until he’s ready.

When he starts being more emotionally intimate with you, that is one of the signs a Virgo man is serious about you. This type of intimacy might come before or after you’ve already slept together.

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Setting Up Expectations

Before you sleep with him, you should make sure that the two of you are on the same page.

If a Virgo man wants a casual relationship, he’ll be the first to let you know. They get a reputation for only having serious relationships but this isn’t true! He might just be looking for something casual.

You also need to establish expectations when it comes to other sexual partners. Are you two exclusive? Do you need to get tested before you start sleeping together?

Talk about expectations for the actual sex as well. You two need to set up boundaries. Virgo can be very particular.

You don’t want to do something he doesn’t like. He doesn’t want to accidentally do something you don’t like either.

You might only have sex with people you’re in a relationship with. That’s fine. You need to have the relationship talk with him in that case, if you’re ready to be in a relationship.

The Relationship Talk

“The relationship talk” is a discussion you have with someone you’re dating where you establish the boundaries of the relationship.

Depending on the circumstances, it might be a good idea to have this conversation before sleeping with a Virgo.

Again, you two want to make sure you’re on the same page. If he sees himself with you long-term but you’re just wanting something casual (or vice versa), it might not be a good idea to sleep together.

The only way to know where you both are at as far as the relationship is concerned is to talk about it.

If a Virgo man acts uninterested in having the relationship talk, that might be a red flag. Yes, he can have problems with emotional discussions, but you can have a “practical” relationship talk.

If he doesn’t want to talk, it might be because he’s unsure about what he wants. He might also know that you two aren’t on the same page but want to continue dating anyway for some reason.

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Friends with Benefits

Even if a Virgo man is attracted to you, he might not be ready for an emotional or romantic relationship with you.

You might not even be dating a Virgo when the topic of sex comes up. You two might just be friends. What do you do in this situation?

It’s important to establish boundaries in a friends-with-benefits situation, just like it is in any relationship.

Even if you two don’t intend to be romantically involved, you need to figure out what your expectations are.

He might just feel the need to have sex but he’s single. If you’re his friend and he already trusts you, he might suggest you two start sleeping together.

He won’t suggest this if he has feelings for you. If he does, he’ll ask you out properly. If you have feelings for him, don’t sleep with him. It’ll only end in heartbreak and might ruin your friendship.

If you are okay with sleeping with him, establish rules first. What happens if one of you gets a partner? Are you two going to have other sexual partners outside of one another? What happens if somebody starts to develop feelings?

When to Sleep with Him

There is no one right answer to this. In some circumstances, sleeping with a Virgo on the first date isn’t going to cause any problems. In others, you’ll want to wait until you two have been dating for a while.

The true answer is that you should sleep with him when you’re both ready. The only way to know you’re both ready is to talk about it. It’s not usually a good idea to sleep with a Virgo without talking about it first.

How good is a Virgo man in bed? Generally, Virgos are considered to be excellent lovers. He’s a people-pleaser. He wants to make sure his partners are having a good time.

Once you two do sleep together, regardless of how long it takes to get to that point, you won’t be disappointed.

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Reasons to Wait

Sex isn’t necessarily how Virgo men show interest in people romantically. They are perfectly capable of separating sex and love. Sometimes, he might want to have sex to “scratch an itch” and that’s it.

One reason you might want to wait to sleep with him is if you’re unsure about your feelings for him. If you’re unsure about his feelings for you as well, that’s another reason.

It’s always best to know one another’s boundaries before sleeping together too. If you haven’t discussed your boundaries and he’s not yet comfortable having that discussion, wait.

You don’t always need to wait a long time to have sex with a Virgo. You should just wait until you two know what to expect before getting into bed together.