What to Expect When a Virgo Man is Heartbroken

Virgo takes heartbreak especially hard because he already has issues with trust and opening up to people. If a breakup is caused by his partner breaking his trust, he’ll be even more heartbroken.

He’ll be emotional in a way he hardly ever is. All his analytical skills will be put toward figuring out what went wrong with the relationship. He may find it hard to work as he normally does.

Virgo’s propensity for being self-critical will also come out when he’s heartbroken. He may blame himself for his relationship ending.

He’ll Be Emotional

A Virgo man, when hurt, will be far more emotional than he typically is.

Virgo is not an emotionally open person, at least not with everyone. He may open up and show his more sensitive side to friends and partners but generally, he isn’t an open book.

If he’s heartbroken, however, it will be clear for everyone to see.

He’ll be obviously upset. He might not want to talk about it with anyone but he won’t be able to hide it. He’ll sulk around. He might avoid going out so that nobody sees how miserable he is.

He’ll have trouble thinking rationally and he’ll let his emotions get in the way.

This is highly unlike him and that’s how you’ll know he’s really torn up inside. His emotions might even start affecting his work and get in the way of his passions.

He will need a lot of support during this time. He won’t be able to just continue with his life and act as if nothing happened.

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He’ll Analyze the Relationship

Romantic relationships aren’t the only ones that can break your heart. Even with platonic relationships, somebody betraying your trust or cutting you out of their life cuts deep.

If a Virgo is feeling heartbroken over a breakup or the end of a friendship, he’ll likely want to look back over the relationship to find out where it went wrong.

Virgo is an analytical person by nature. He is someone who gathers information easily. He might start sifting through memories, trying to figure out if there was a “breaking point” in the relationship that he missed.

He will look over old texts, think back on arguments, and do anything else he can think of to figure out what went wrong. This isn’t always an easy task, of course.

Relationships don’t always end for just one reason. There isn’t always an obvious point where everything went wrong. Sometimes, nothing went wrong and the two people just drifted apart.

He’ll Criticize Himself

Virgo might criticize his ex and their flaws after a breakup but he’s more likely to focus on his flaws.

He is self-critical by nature. Virgo can be extremely harsh on himself. He holds himself up to higher standards than anyone else.

He also truly values his relationships with people. It takes him a long time to open up and develop those relationships. He doesn’t want to let a relationship go, even if the other person ends it.

He’ll focus on all the things he doesn’t like about himself. He’ll focus on any negative comments his ex made about him. He may beat himself up. He’ll wonder if he could have fixed the relationship by fixing his negative traits.

All of this can put him into an even worse mood than the breakup itself did. He can easily fall into a self-hating spiral.

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He’ll Reflect on Mistakes

Self-reflection is a big part of heartbreak for a Virgo. He wants to figure out what he did wrong so that he doesn’t make the same mistakes in the future.

Will Virgo man change his mind about a breakup? He might. After some reflection, he might realize he was in the wrong. He might find that his mistakes were what ended the relationship. If this is true, he may want to try again.

More often than not, both people in the relationship made mistakes. There were probably many contributing factors to the breakup.

A heartbroken Virgo may not always see it that way. He might hyperfocus on his own mistakes. He may think that if he can fix those mistakes, he’ll be able to fix the relationship.

He will reflect on his mistakes even if there is no hope of rekindling the relationship. He may want to find love again someday. He doesn’t want to make the same mistakes twice if he doesn’t have to.

He’ll Want Answers

A Virgo man always comes back to his ex, though it’s not always to get back together. If you left him suddenly or weren’t forthcoming about the reason for the breakup, he’ll come looking for answers.

If the relationship ended because you cheated on him, he’ll come looking for answers about why you did that. He doesn’t often forgive such a deep betrayal but he’ll want to know if something he did caused you to stray.

He may not always come looking for answers right away. He might call to talk weeks down the line. He may send a text out of the blue months later asking for an explanation.

He does this because he has a hard time not knowing things. If he’s at all confused about where his relationship went wrong, he’ll want to clear that confusion up.

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He’ll Need a Long Recovery

There is no exact timeline on how long it takes somebody to get over heartbreak. Some people can bounce back from the end of a 5-year relationship quickly. Virgo is not often one of those people.

He’ll need time to get out of that self-hating spiral he may have found himself in post-breakup. He will have to work to get his emotions back under control.

Even if the relationship was short, Virgo still opened himself up to somebody else and it backfired (in his mind, anyway). He won’t get over that easily.

If a Virgo man is still in love with his ex, the road to recovery will be even longer. He won’t be able to move on and get over his ex if he’s still hung up on them.

He’ll Have Trust Issues

Do Virgos go back to their ex? They sometimes do. However, if that ex violated his trust, the chances of him wanting to rekindle the relationship are low.

Virgo already has trouble trusting people. It doesn’t come naturally to him. He can be extremely closed off, even with his friends. It takes him a long time to fully trust somebody.

If his trust is broken, he’s not going to want to open himself up to heartbreak again. Even if he does end up meeting someone else in the future, he’ll be wary.

Even if the breakup was mutual, he may still have trouble trusting again. For him, establishing trust with his partner takes a lot of effort. He’ll be reluctant to go through that process all over again.

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He Won’t Rebound

A Virgo man’s rebound relationships are practically non-existent. Rebounding makes some people feel better after a breakup. This isn’t the case for Virgo.

Virgo enjoys sex but he is particular with his partners. He doesn’t do one-night stands.

He needs a partner who he knows is safe. He needs somebody who already knows what he likes.

It takes time to learn what a partner likes in bed. It takes time to establish trust. For Virgo, all that work just isn’t worth it for a one-time thing or a short-term fling.

He’ll Be Open to Change

When a Virgo man wants you back, you’ll find he’s open to making the changes necessary to rekindle the relationship.

Normally, Virgo is reluctant to make changes in his life. He likes to settle into a routine and won’t want to change that.

If he wants to get his ex back, though, he’ll be willing to change. He’ll work on his flaws and apologize for past mistakes.

He might also realize there are some things he needs to do to work on himself in general. Even if he doesn’t get back with his ex, making some changes will allow him to be a better partner in the future.

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He Might Vanish

A Virgo man after a breakup is extremely vulnerable. He doesn’t always want others to see this vulnerability. For this reason, he might disappear off the face of the Earth for a while.

How long do Virgos disappear for? It’s not forever. He knows he has responsibilities. He won’t ditch work. He won’t back out on everything he promised to do.

He may just take a social media break for a few weeks or have a couple of weekends to himself.

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