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Are you concerned about your emotionally distant Aquarius man? Are you perplexed why your loving and caring Aquarius man has suddenly become distant?
If you have silently nodded your head in agreement to the above questions, you shouldn’t lose hope.
Aquarius men make great companions. They are friendly, entertaining, intelligent, and loyal. But like people with other zodiac signs, they also have some dark traits. And being emotionally detached is one of them.
The philosophy of life for an Aquarian is to be independent, and most of them won’t let anyone come close beyond a point.
Many women are frustrated when an Aquarian man blows hot and cold in a relationship. You need to act with tact if you don’t want to sever your connection with an Aquarius man.
At the beginning of the relationship, he may seem strong to you. He will buy gifts, plan outings, and make every effort to make you feel special. And then suddenly, he may stop and even pull away.
So, what happened to him?
The fact is that Aquarius men seem to avoid deep emotional connections. They may act warm and loving at one moment and cold and distant at another.
However, you should not be worried if you find an Aquarius man distancing himself after acting so caring and loving.
To understand why an Aquarius man suddenly becomes distant, you must get acquainted with the psychology of emotions.
You need to realize that people have different levels of emotional threshold. All of us have a threshold, beyond which we become overwhelmed by our feelings.
Aquarian men have a very low emotional threshold. They become disconformable when faced with intense emotions. That’s the reason they become distant.
Remember emotional attachment is not easy for an Aquarius man.
Being cold does not mean he is cold and emotionless. There may be several reasons why an Aquarius man suddenly becomes distant and detached.
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1. Emotionally Stressed Out
An Aquarius man pulls away when in love when things are moving too fast for him. He will feel mentally stressed out when flooded by emotions.
An Aquarius man’s cold and distant treatment is a type of emotional defense mechanism to protect against being hurt. An Aquarius man responds to a high level of emotional stress and tension by distancing himself.
Here is a quick scenario:
Imagine you have had a row with an Aquarius man over something. You let out your frustrations on him for about 30 minutes telling him what he did wrong.
While you will feel relieved after you have vented your feelings, you have flooded his system with negative feelings. He will feel distressed and completely burned out.
In order to calm his mind and regain his cool, the Aquarius man will become distant and detached.
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2. Revert To a Normal Routine
Like all humans, Aquarian men also feel emotions. But due to being sensitive, they don’t enjoy them for long. Even positive feelings like love and happiness may seem overwhelming to them.
At the start, an Aquarius man may be in full gear in order to win your heart. But the fact is that he may not really be enjoying the feeling and acting that way to make you love him.
After a while when feelings seem to be too stressful to him, he may want to slow things down in a relationship. The first sign of taking things slow is becoming emotionally distant and withdrawn.
3. No Emotional Response From Partner
Sometimes, an Aquarius man will become distant because he may not be getting the emotional response he requires from a partner.
For an Aquarius man, emotional connection with a partner is a two-way street. He wants his partner to take initiative as well, and he doesn’t want to do all the work in a relationship.
Since an Aquarian man is emotionally cold by nature, he will revert to his subconscious trait if you are not responding to him. He will feel that he doesn’t need to please you anymore.
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4. Lack Of Intimacy
An Aquarius man may also become withdrawn if there is a lack of intimacy with the partner. While he may be unemotional, but like all men, he really cherishes intimate moments.
When the partner does not show any interest in intimacy, he will feel that he is not desired. Lack of romance makes him revert to his basic traits – being cold and distant.
5. He Desires Time Alone
Aquarius men tend to be inward focused. They focus more on internal thoughts and feelings instead of seeking external stimuli.
An Aquarius man is like a smartphone. He will need to lay back and recharge after feeling emotionally exhausted due to continuous emotional encounters.
He believes in the saying that absence makes the heart love more. While he might be in love with you, he will crave for some time alone.
The desire to be alone does not mean that he wants to end the relationship. He just wants some space and time to relieve the pressure.
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6. You Are Being Too Affectionate
An Aquarius man doesn’t feel at ease if the partner wants to spend too much time with him. It’s nice to feel needed. But if you can’t stop sending text, calling him, or giving presents, he will feel overwhelmed.
Aquarian men don’t want women to be affectionate all the time. They have some intellectual tendencies. Too much attention and affection will make them feel distressed.
This does not mean that he or want you to end the affectionate feelings. He may enjoy the feeling of being loved and treasured. However, too much affection makes him feel constrained.
Aquarius man silent treatment may not be because of a lack of love. An Aquarius man will retreat if you display too much attachment to you.
Sometimes, showing too much neediness is enough for him to suddenly become distant. It may be that he feels suffocated by the display of affection.
Aquarius men have intellectual needs. They want to share their ideas and aspirations with others. While they do enjoy being in a relationship, they don’t like the emotional aspects of a relationship. They don’t like being needed or desired.
If you start to be too much affectionate, he will instinctively pull away and become detached. He will think that he will lose his freedom when he becomes committed to you.
7. He Wants To Give Time To Himself
An Aquarius man becomes distant if he thinks that he is not giving time to himself. He will feel he is losing touch with himself when he is around you.
You need to be understanding of his needs and let him devote time to favorite activities. This might be completing some project, partying with friends, or just playing video games.
Whatever the case, you need to give him some space so that he reconnects with himself.
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8. He Wants To Be With Friends
Aquarius men are highly social. They rarely can be found without a group of friends around them. If he is not able to give time to his friends, he may become distant and cold.
The need to be with friends arises from the innate nature of an Aquarius man to always have fun. He cherishes spending quality time enjoying with his buddies.
An Aquarian man cherishes the time spent with friends. He will prefer being friends than being in a relationship in which he is not allowed to be with his mates.
An Aquarius will ignore you if you set restrictions on him about meeting with his friends. You need to let him spend some quality time with his friends if you want him to stop being distant and cold to you.
9. Afraid Of Commitment
Everything may be going well. You two find that you enjoy talking to each other and exchanging gifts. But then suddenly he becomes distant and withdrawn.
The possible reason for this action is fear of commitment.
Aquarian men feel that being in a relationship will mean an end to their freedom. As a result, they will be reluctant to enter into a committed relationship.
You need to give more time to him so that he can decide what is best for both of you.
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10. He Wants To Take It Slow
An Aquarian man won’t want to rush things in a relationship. Aquarian men want to think things through. They don’t like taking quick actions.
He might act distant if he thinks that you are trying to rush thing. He wants to spread the relationship milestones over a period of years.
He may be happy with the relationship. But he may be afraid of taking giant steps. He doesn’t want to make big changes quickly and will ponder over the decision.
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Omg.. I’ve been dating an aquarius… he was so involved at first now he is just so distant…. and it’s only been 6 months…
It’s common for Aquarius men to need space at times. Communication is key in understanding each other’s needs.
Or it could just be Aquarius men are incredibly selfish. All of the above points are suggesting we should bend over backwards if we want to keep them happy!!!
Very simply if man is too scared or not honest enough to deal with commitment and emotion (2 very important factors in a relationship) then why would you want to be in a relationship with him? Find a man who is a man.
Thank you for sharing your point of view Shelly. I appreciate it.
You can’t make a relationship work without making efforts and compromises. Effort goes both ways. This article focuses on why an Aquarius man suddenly becomes distant because, well, that’s the topic of the article. The point is trying to understand how an Aquarius man thinks.
You can’t demand commitment and emotions from an Aquarius man from the get-go without trying to understand him, respecting him, and respecting the timing of the relationship. This is selfish in itself.
And calling him scared or dishonest simply because he doesn’t think exactly like you is not helping either. People have different sensibilities and expectations, and they build relationships at different pace.
I’m afraid your negativity and dismissal of all Aquarius men at once tells more about your own state of mind than it does about Aquarius men.
This article rings true. I have been friends with an aquarius guy for almost 2 years now and sometimes I still don’t know whether he is going or coming. They are kind and sensitive, very analytical and If you’re lucky and patient they do open up little pieces of themselves and show their emotions. They adore their privacy and until they are sure of you, they won’t let you in. Their approach to love and relationships are very different from other signs I find. They like to take their time and these water bearers are definitely worth it if you have the patience to hang in there and dig deep into their fascinating world. This article was spot on!
Thanks for sharing your experience! It’s great to hear that the article resonated with you and your understanding of Aquarius men. Patience and understanding can go a long way in building a strong connection with them.
I think I screwed things up with my aquarius man. When he wanted a break I thought it was a break up. I freaked out for days. Used to people leaving me. I texted over and over again. I finally told him I needed to arrange to pick my stuff I couldn’t wait for him to not choose me. This is so emotional. But I love him. And I feel like he’s my soul mate. I stopped texting him. I still don’t get the ghosting. It hurts.
I understand how tough it is when someone you love becomes distant. It’s important to take care of yourself and focus on your own well-being. If you need support, reach out to friends or family.
I’ve dated this Aquarius online for one year. He keeps telling me he will visit me but at times he becomes distant and if I don’t call him he will ask me why am mad at him. I know he is not married but I imagine is talking to other women. He says he loves yet acts distant sometimes.He is so open with me and tells about his past and his plans. If for example he has a lot of things planned for a week he tells me in advance but somehow takes time to call me Recently he said am his secret love but afterwards he became overly attentive like he felt guilty about it.
It sounds like you’re feeling confused about his actions. Trust your instincts and have a conversation with him about your concerns. Clear communication is important for understanding each other’s feelings.
I’ve been dating an aquarius online for 4 years. When we had the chance to meet in real life, he just said he was busy. That was turn off #1. Through the years I have experienced many “turn-offs” with this guy. Covid-19 made the relationship even more distant as we can’t fly like before the pandemic. He keeps texting me every month or within 2 weeks, I reply his messages, we laugh, tho I don’t care. Sometimes he says he needs help with a project, I think he uses me for his own benefit. These guys have mood swings, they overthink/overanalyse topics, behaviors of the ones around and so on. It could be very frustrating as I don’t know anything about his past or plan in the future. I made an effort to understand him through all these years, but I learned not to ask / talk about specific topics as it seems he is irritated. So I became “busy” aloof, distant or ostracised to see what happens
It sounds like you’re feeling frustrated with the situation. Maybe it’s time to have an honest conversation with him about how you feel.
They are extremely difficult people and if they don’t change they will die alone like my Aquarius brother and sister. I feel sorry for this sign. They have severe emotional difficulties
I appreciate your perspective. Everyone has their challenges, but it’s important to approach each person with understanding and compassion.
This article is spot on, I’ve been dating an Aquarius guy for almost 3 months and he definitely is the “hot and cold” that was explained, after many complex discussions about his ghosting I have realized after doing some research that no matter how much he suddenly becomes distance his actions when he’s around shows me that he is developing love at a slower pace. I am falling in love with him and I am willing to compromise some things to see eye to eye with him. He has made it clear many times that I am the one he wants so his distancing doesn’t really bother me that much anymore!
Glad the article resonated with your experience! It sounds like you’re understanding each other better. Keep communicating and enjoying your time together!
I’ve been dating my Aquarius partner for seven years, and as a Cancer, I can attest that this is right on. They look quite frigid but are really delicate and sensitive. They are very analytical and clever creatures that consider not only their future but also their partners. If we are lucky enough, they will open up to us about themselves and their ambitions. Although it takes some time to comprehend their goals, it is very tough to interpret them. They have a great understanding of human nature. They treasure you when they love you. Be cautious of the words you use when your angry with them as it cuts deep wounds in them.
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