How to Arouse a Virgo Man

A Virgo man is eager to please. He loves to take care of his partners. When he cares about somebody, he wants to make sure their needs are met. This is true in bed. Just let him satisfy you sometimes and he’ll love it.

Virgo is also a talker. Talk about what fantasies you two have. Talk dirty to him, before you have sex and during. Tell him what you like and compliment him when he does something that arouses you.

Sex is also one area where Virgo is fine with giving up some of his control.

Let Him Satisfy You

Are Virgo men good at sex? Many people enjoy having sex with them because of how giving they are. Even if he isn’t the most experienced lover, he’ll make up for it by putting you first.

Virgo enjoys pleasing his partners. He likely gets you gifts or helps you out with chores to make you happy. He wants to do this in bed too.

If he wants you to just sit back and relax while he does the work, let him. He’ll happily perform oral sex or do anything else you like.

Don’t feel like you’re being selfish or like you’re not “pulling your weight”. Virgo derives pleasure when he’s pleasuring his partner. He’s getting something out of it too, even if it doesn’t seem like it.

Of course, you won’t want to sit back and do nothing all the time. He won’t want this either. When he does, he’ll let you know.

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Dirty Talk

What does Virgo like in bed? One thing many of them like, oddly enough, is dirty talk.

Virgo is a communicative sign since it’s ruled by Mercury. Talking in bed is absolutely the way to go if you want to get him riled up.

You can start the dirty talk before you two start having sex. If you’re out at dinner, tell him what you’d like him to do to you later. Whisper sweet nothings into his ear during the car ride home.

Virgo might like to talk dirty as well. Let him know that you’re receptive to the idea. He’ll gladly talk your ear off.

Dirty talk doesn’t come easy to everyone. If you’ve never done it before, don’t worry. It just takes some practice. If you’re doing something wrong, Virgo will be the first person to let you know.

Tell Him What You Like

Make sure you talk to him about what you both like before you get a Virgo in bed.

This might seem like a no-brainer to some people but not everyone is good about discussing what they like with their partners.

Virgo will feel more comfortable having sex when he already knows your likes and dislikes. He won’t have to worry about pushing a boundary or making you uncomfortable if he already knows your boundaries.

Practical Virgo likes to know what he’s getting himself into. Even when he’s having fun, he likes to have some sort of plan.

He’ll be more aroused if he’s not nervous about screwing something up while he’s having sex with you.

It’ll also arouse him just hearing about all the things you’d like him to do. You don’t even need to talk dirty. Just list things out. He’ll love it.

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Foreplay

Sex isn’t just about the “main act” for Virgo. He doesn’t usually like quickies. He’s fine taking his time and making sure that you’re both having a great experience.

If you want to know a Virgo man’s erogenous zones, look at the parts of the body the sign of Virgo rules over. These are the stomach and waist areas.

Pay attention to these areas during foreplay. Kiss his stomach, caress his waist. He’ll want to touch these areas on you as well.

If you have certain places you like to be touched, tell him. You can even show him how to do things correctly. He will appreciate the tutorial.

Foreplay can start before your clothes even come off. Remember, Virgo likes dirty talk and he likes to hear what you want in bed. Talking is a form of foreplay for Virgo.

Woo Him

What is a Virgo man attracted to? His exact preferences for a partner will vary but he’ll be even more attracted to you if you take the time to properly woo him before you jump into bed together.

This is especially necessary if you two are having sex for the first time. If you’re in an established relationship, don’t just spring sex on him without warning. Ease into it.

Show him how much you care about him. Start with more chaste affection, like hugs and gentle kisses.

Getting explicit consent should be done during the wooing phase too. If you just start making sexual advances and he doesn’t want to have sex, you’ll both feel uncomfortable. It’s sexier if you’re both on the same page.

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Take the Lead

Virgo likes to be in control in other areas of life but a Virgo man’s sexual preferences can be different. He likes it when his partner takes over.

He’s used to always being in control. He can be a tightly wound person. He probably works all day then comes home and does more work.

Allow him to give up some of that control to you. It might help relieve some of his stress.

He might just want to relax. He won’t want to think too much. He won’t want to be the one putting in all the effort.

You can boss him around a little. He’ll probably like it. Again, he’s eager to please. He also likes it when his partners are confident and assertive.

Sometimes, he just wants you to tell him what to do. That’s the best way for him to make sure that you’re having a good time.

Fantasies

Are Virgo men kinky? They aren’t wild or out there in the same way a Sagittarius or Scorpio might be. They do have fantasies, though.

Ask Virgo about his fantasies. A Virgo man’s fantasies might be any number of things. Not every single Virgo man has the same ones. You’ll have to get your Virgo to open up to you about what his fantasies are.

Sharing fantasies, even if they never become reality, can be a good way for couples to grow closer. It’s just another way you can learn about one another.

This is also a good way to find out some things your partner might like in bed. Ask him what his perfect sexual experience would look like. You’ll likely be able to find some things in his story that you two can try.

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Switch It Up

Are Virgo men boring in bed? People might think so since Virgo loves routine and can be resistant to change. However, he’s a great lover and won’t mind switching things up when it comes to your sex life.

He isn’t down for anything like some people are but he’ll at least hear you out if you want to try something new.

Virgo needs people in his life who encourage him to try new things. He often likes having somebody around who helps him to get outside of his comfort zone.

If you are starting to feel bored with your sex life, don’t tell him you’re bored. That will make him feel bad. Instead, talk to him about some new things you’d like to try.

Even if he doesn’t end up wanting to try what you’re suggesting, just talking about sex might put him in the mood.

Compliment Him

Virgo doesn’t always like to be complimented but a Virgo man does in bed

This is one of the best ways to tell him what you like. If he does something that turns you on, let him know! He’ll be more likely to do it again in the future.

If you know he’s self-conscious about his body, make sure you tell him all the things you like about his appearance. Don’t lie or exaggerate. Just give him genuine, heartfelt compliments.

He might also be unsure about his performance in bed. He’s overly critical of himself sometimes. Make sure he knows how great he’s doing. Tell him when he makes you feel good.

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Be Affectionate

Physical affection is something Virgo loves when he’s in a relationship. It might take him a while to get to that point but once he does, he’ll be all over you.

There are all kinds of things you can do to make him feel loved and let him know you’re in the mood.

Lead into things with a passionate kiss. Run your hand over his thigh while you two are watching a movie. Give him a massage.

Be affectionate in bed too. If you two are in love and in a relationship, it won’t just be about the sex. Tell him you love him. Look him in the eye. Don’t just have sex, make love.