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If you want to get a Virgo man back, you need to understand his personality and thought process.
There is almost a science to understanding Virgos and moving on after a breakup. You have to know how to gradually re-engage him.
Do Virgos regret breaking up? Often the answer is yes. Yet even when he misses you, a Virgo man, after a break-up, will be distant. You may think he’s done.
A Virgo man, when hurt, will become quiet and detached. He needs to stay in control and wants to preserve the image of being calm. Inside he may be upset.
Yet when a Virgo man wants you back, he’ll show you. A Virgo man keeps coming back because the relationship is a puzzle he wants to solve.
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1. Initially, Give Him Space to Cool Off
Why does a Virgo man withdraw? You may ask yourself this question. Especially if you feel like you did everything right. Yet the bottom line is, a Virgo man often just needs space to calm down. Especially after a period of conflict.
Virgo men can be rational and analytical. They always try to make sense of things, especially of their feelings. This can be confusing when you want to work out your differences immediately. He won’t be rushed.
He needs to take time to work through his feelings. A Virgo man always wants to resume control and regain composure. He will try to keep any hurt feelings carefully hidden. He’ll also minimize his passions.
From the outside, it will seem like he never cared. Don’t be fooled by his cool demeaner. He’s likely reeling on the inside but maintaining a carefully controlled stoic exterior. Don’t jump to assumptions that he doesn’t care.
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2. Keep Yourself Busy Improving Your Life
Will a Virgo man miss you? Only if you give him a chance to. This may seem obvious, but often when a woman falls in love with a Virgo man, she may want to spend every minute with him.
Yet in doing so, you don’t give him a chance to miss you. A Virgo man has a high threshold for isolation. You may miss him after a day or even an hour. He may need two weeks apart.
He will miss you, but it takes him time. He needs to go through his routines without you to compare and to realize how much he misses you. The more you keep yourself busy, the more he will become interested in what you’re doing in his absence.
Another reason to invest energy on self-improvement is the more you advance personally, the more he will admire you. A Virgo man loves to see that you are interested in being your best. He’s a perfectionist and loves to see you refining your strengths.
If you’re wondering how to know when a Virgo man is done with you, let time go by. If after a month or more he is making no attempt to contact you, he’s likely moved on.
A heartbroken Virgo male is still a Virgo man. He still loves you and tries to analyze the situation. Always the researcher, he’s going to look at your social media page. A Virgo man is always trying to pay attention to details.
Show him that you have alluring things going on in your life. A Virgo man who sees you flirting with other guys online will be turned off. Yet a Virgo man who sees that you are learning new things will want to reach out.
In particular, drop hints about intellectual topics that you know will get his attention. Post about classes you’re taking, a trip you’re going on or other types of learning opportunities. This will intrigue a Virgo man.
He’ll be happy to see that you aren’t getting involved in drama on social media. He’ll also be happy to see that you are enriching your mind. He’ll eventually come forward, wanting to have conversations about your learnings.
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4. Don’t Try to Make Him Jealous
The very last thing you want to do if you’re serious about getting your Virgo man back, is to make him jealous. It’s not worth the risk to flirt with other guys. Don’t try to play with his mind in any way.
Virgo men are sensitive to manipulation. He’ll know if you’re playing with him and will shut down immediately. You want to tempt a Virgo man to come back into your life because of your wit and intelligence, not because he has competition.
A Virgo man won’t fight for the relationship in the way you may expect him to. If another guy is in the picture, a Virgo man will retreat to the background. Yet if there is a problem to solve, that’s where he’ll show his efforts.
A Virgo man will fight intellectually to work through your differences in the relationship. He won’t fight to win you over from another man. If you try to make him jealous, he’ll close the door for good.
5. Try to be Friends for a While
The bast path back to a relationship with a Virgo man is to try to be friends initially. Don’t try to pick up where you left off. Instead, try to keep a connection with him as a friend.
He’ll feel relief because this will give him a chance to cool off while still being in your life. Let him court you all over again. Take it slow and use your time as friends to remind him of why you’re perfect for him.
As a friend, respect his boundaries. Don’t push for reconnection too soon. A Virgo man needs to see that he can feel secure with you again. Friendship a time out from romance for him. Trust him to convey when he’s ready for more.
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6. Be Kind and Generous to Others
While you’re taking your time and enjoying the friendship with your Virgo man, be sure to show him your generosity. Not just with him, but with others as well.
If you’re kind and generous to others, especially children and the elderly, a Virgo man will fall in love with you all over again. This is a great way to attract his attention. Show genuine concern and compassion for others.
A Virgo man loves to see your compassion and kindness. The more you can try to be of service to others, the more he will be reassured that you really are the one for him.
7. Deal with Your Emotions Separately
Just as your Virgo man needs to retreat to deal with his emotions, so too should you. You may want to pour your heart out to him. You may want to show him just how devastated you are since the break-up.
This is a terrible mistake. A Virgo man has a hard enough time with his own feelings. He won’t be able to tolerate trying to handle your emotions as well. It’s best to find other ways to validate and heal your feelings.
Seek support from friends. When you interact with your Virgo love interest, stay grounded. Don’t pour your emotions out to him. He can’t be your shoulder to cry on and take time to deal with the break-up for himself at the same time.
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8. Don’t Expect Him to Apologize
A Virgo man can be humble. Unlike an Aries or Leo, he doesn’t need to prove himself out of pride. Yet he can be a control freak. For this reason he’ll want to be calm and composed. He’ll rationalize the reasons for the break-up.
When he starts to come around, don’t expect an apology. Expect instead that he will outline his analysis of what went wrong. He’ll also share his plan to change and improve things. He won’t offer a sentimental apology. It’s too vulnerable for him to do this.
A Virgo man will show you he’s sorry. He’ll do this by nurturing you and taking care of your practical needs. He’ll also go out of his way to check in on you. He’ll try to make it up to you through his actions.
9. Focus on Facts and Keep Conversation Light
This is one of the hardest things to do. A Virgo man will look at the situation as if he was a robot. He’s only taking in data. Yet you’re human and heartbroken and it’s tempting to stray from the facts.
Avoid doing this. When you talk to him, keep the conversation light and friendly. Don’t try to rehash emotional issues. Don’t push for emotional connection too soon.
Instead try to come to an understanding. Reinforce the ways you agree and what you have in common. Try to be optimistic and avoid too much complaining or negativity. You want to attract him back through your witty and light conversation.
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10. Show Him You’ve Learned and Grown
In the time he takes after a separation, this is ultimately what a Virgo man is looking for. It’s more powerful to him than any apology you could make. A Virgo man is all about improvement and progress.
If he can see evidence that you’ve learned from relationship conflicts or mistakes in the past, he’ll be reassured. A Virgo man wants to see that you are teachable. He is putting himself through a rigorous self-assessment.
He’s also assessing you. He’s looking for evidence that you understand what led the relationship to fall apart and that you are doing something different to change things. You can tell him you’ve changed, but he’ll look for evidence.
Actions speak louder than words to a Virgo man. You need to talk about what you have learned about your patterns and shortcomings in the relationship but also show him what you will do differently. He is often critical, but this is part of his analytical side.
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