10 Easy Tips to Help You Date a Virgo Man

A Virgo man’s crush signs are subtle. Knowing how to date a Virgo man is an artform. At first, dating a Virgo man will feel like spending time with a friend.

Even a Virgo man in love will remain rational. He’ll keep a distance and carefully evaluate you. Dating a Virgo is more like a series of job interviews than romantic nights out.

You may have heard that dating a Virgo man is difficult. Understanding a Virgo man’s love style will help you to see his signs of attraction. You’ll be able to play to his desires.

1. Slow Your Expectations Down

When you date a Virgo man, you may wonder if he’s really serious or just wants to be friends. That’s because he keeps his attraction subtle at first. A Virgo man attracted to you will take his time getting to know you.

He’s cautious in love. If you expect a passionate pursuit, you will be disappointed. It’s best to ground yourself and be patient. Let him go at his own pace but know it will be a slow pace. A Virgo man will always choose rationality over emotion.

You may think he should text more often if he’s interested. The truth is, one of the signs of a Virgo man falling in love is that he will text you regularly. He’ll fit you into his schedule consistently.

It may not be as frequently as you would like at first. Any expectations you have will need to be adjusted. If you expect a new milestone in a relationship after a month, give a Virgo man three months.

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2. Don’t Take Criticism Personally

One of the signs a Virgo man is interested in you is when he starts to criticize you. If you want to date a Virgo man and hope things will become more serious, prepare yourself for this. This is one of the hardest things for women to understand.

Don’t take his criticism as an insult. Instead, see it as a badge of honor. It means he cares about you enough to want to try to help you improve yourself or your life. What feels like criticism to you is helpful feedback, in his mind.

A Virgo man wouldn’t take the extra effort to give you this feedback if he didn’t really care about you. He’s a perfectionist and wants to help you rise to your best potential. You need a thick skin to date a Virgo man.

It’s essential that you reframe his criticism, in your mind, as advice or guidance. A Virgo man will want to spend more time with you when he sees that you are open to constructive criticism.

3. Try to Learn from Him

One of the biggest strengths a Virgo man has is his intellectual abilities. He knows this. It’s only natural that he wants to share his knowledge with you. He loves to date intelligent women, but if you already know everything he tells you, he’ll get discouraged.

No matter how intelligent, successful and knowledgeable you are, always give your Virgo love interest a chance to teach you something new. He needs to see that you are curious about the world. If you act like you know everything, he’ll lose interest.

One of the best ways to get a Virgo man to become more attracted to you is to show interest in his mind. Encourage him to tell you about his interests. Show authentic curiosity and desire to learn about his expertise.

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4. Teach Him a Few Things As Well

Sharing information is a two-way street for a Virgo man. He loves to teach you new things about the world and stimulate your mind. Yet he also wants you to teach him a thing or two. He needs mental stimulation.

While you may not want to upstage him on his own territory, try to show him your expertise. Dive deeper into your own studies so you can talk with him about topics with which he is unfamiliar.

A Virgo man loves being stimulated intellectually. He always loves to talk about his own interests and research, but he also likes to learn new things from others. This is especially true if you can find intriguing information on practical topics.

Always do your homework when you talk about facts with a Virgo man. His mind is like an encyclopedia. It may not seem like your typical romantic evening to sit in a restaurant and talk about research, but it’s his ideal date.

5. Be Resourceful, He Doesn’t Want to Spend All His Money

A Virgo man is truly a gentleman. He loves that you’re independent, but he will still cover the bill. It’s a romantic gesture that shows his feelings. He loves taking care of you in practical ways. There’s a catch, though.

Always be resourceful. A Virgo man wants to treat you, but he has a frugal side. If he asks where you want to go for dinner, pick a moderate location that is a step up from casual but not the most expensive.

If you’re interests are too high class, he may think you’re using him for his money. He may also feel frustrated with your opulent tastes even if he does indulge your wishes.

A Virgo man is always planning for long term. If he thinks you have expensive tastes, he may give up on the relationship. He doesn’t want to be with someone long term who is going to drain his bank account.

He’ll be more attracted to you and want to date you if he sees that you are practical and good with money. He’s more attracted to the idea of cooking together at home than spending a lot on a fancy restaurant.

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6. Respect His Time and Boundaries

A Virgo man is obsessed with his schedule and routines. He’ll fit you into his life when he loves you. Yet a Virgo man needs to see that you respect his time. If you try to linger too long, he won’t see it as romantic.

He’ll see it as intrusive. A Virgo man needs to feel like he’s in control of his life. If you try too hard to get him to open up or move too fast, he’ll back away. He doesn’t want to rush to make major decisions.

Even things like moving in together or meeting the family will be issues he agonizes over for a long time. He’ll weigh the pros and cons. Don’t try to influence his choice. If he thinks you’re manipulating him, he’ll shut down.

Virgo men are sticklers for time as well. Don’t show up late. When you have plans, don’t cancel at the last minute. If you change your plans or don’t follow the agreed upon schedule, he’ll think you don’t respect him.

7. Look for Consistency

When you date a Virgo man, you won’t be passionately chased no matter how much he loves you. He will show you he’s interested when he makes consistent efforts over time.

A Virgo man believes that slow and steady wins the race. He needs to carefully evaluate whether he wants to get serious. One thing you can count on is that a Virgo man will make efforts to be with you.

It may not be as often as you would like. A Virgo man will treat your dates together like a regularly scheduled appointment. When you date a Virgo man, you’ll need to see this as progress, not stagnation.

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8. Cook with Him

You can earn major attraction points with a Virgo man by inviting him over to cook dinner together. First, make sure your home is spotless. He’s a neat freak. Also plan a healthy meal with organic produce.

He’ll love to spend time with you doing something wholesome and productive, like cooking. If you have a garden, he’ll likely enjoy spending time growing food with you as well. Collaborate with him to plan a romantic evening at home.

Let him teach you his favorite techniques in the kitchen. He may even have a favorite family recipe that he’s perfected through trial and error. He’ll love spending time with you and enjoy the meal even more because you made it together.

9. Let Him Help You Fix Things

In addition to asking him to make dinner with you, a Virgo man will love to fix things. Though this breaks from the conventional idea of dating as going out to romantic locations, to a Virgo man, being productive is more important than being sentimental.

A Virgo man needs to feel important and loves to show his talents. When you’re dating a Virgo man, let him help you fix things in your home, car or on your computer.

He’ll love to share his knowledge with you by helping you learn to do repairs yourself as well. This is a good way to bond with a Virgo man also because he won’t be in the spotlight. He hates feeling like you’re focusing on him.

If you go out on a date, he can become self-conscious sitting across from a table having conversations with you. Yet when he’s at your place fixing your computer, he can converse much more easily.

He feels more at ease. He can open up to you because his mind is on his work. His hands and mind are busy and his personal, emotional side can come through more easily. He has a hard time relaxing but work can ease his mind.

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10. Show an Interest in Intellectual Topics

If you’re going to date a Virgo man, you’ve got to match his intellectual strengths. Discuss books you have read. Talk about classes you’re taking. A Virgo man loves to research and learn.

Show him that you, also are an eternal student. Don’t shy away from intellectual topics and whatever you do, don’t play dumb. A Virgo man thinks intelligence is a turn on.

Hold his attention by discussing interesting topics. Know your facts and have plenty of data to share with him. He’ll be intrigued by your knowledge and memory. He appreciates your opinion but also needs to know that your ideas are backed by facts.