How to Make a Cancer Man Fall in Love with You

A Cancer man’s love language is all based on emotion. Knowing how to handle his changing moods is the key to understanding his love style. He needs a strong emotional connection.

You can easily get a Cancer man to fall in love and open up to you when you nurture him and show him you care. You need to be able to soothe his insecurities.

How does a Cancer man act when in love? Like a character from a romance comedy. He’ll be shy and awkward but then obsessively devoted to you.

Make Him Feel Secure

A Cancer man’s dominant nature doesn’t come out right away. Usually in love, a Cancer man is more insecure and passive than not. He needs to feel secure about the relationship and sure of your commitment to him.

Since Cancer love language is all about emotional connection, empathy and nurturing are the keys to drawing him out of his shell. One of the signs a Cancer has feelings for you is his sudden withdrawal.

This is a signal of his insecurity and awkwardness. He wants to appear perfect and wants to show you he cares. As a result, he may stumble over his words and appear bashful.

The more you can make a Cancer man feel secure, even when he stumbles, the better. He’ll fall in love with you when he sees that you are gentle and compassionate.

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Be Family-Oriented

The key to understanding a Cancer man is knowing how much home and family mean to him. He is family centered and will fall in love with you when he sees you have a soft spot for family as well.

Talk to him about how you still visit your grandmother every week or have family gatherings every Sunday with your parents. Tell him how important family is and show him that you understand family is top priority.

Be understanding when he cancels plans because he has to take his grandmother grocery shopping. Show admiration that he cares so much about his mom that he stops by her house on his way to see you.

A Cancer man’s behavior, when in love, is still family centered. He will want to invite you to have meals with his family. You know he’s in love with you when he wants you to meet his mom. No matter what, don’t criticize his mother or family.

Show him you support his family-focused priorities. Never try to stand in the way of his family obligations. Talk lovingly about your family as well. Even if you have strained relationships, play up the connection you have to your family.

Listen Without Judgment

A Cancer man is turned off by any kind of criticism or intimidation. He’s one of the most sensitive men in the zodiac so you need to be gentle when dealing with his issues. He has major insecurities and needs lots of reassurance.

One of the ways you can help a Cancer man fall in love with you is to put him at ease. Let him see that you know how to listen nonjudgmentally. Active listening, a process in which you not only hear him but also reflect back what he’s saying, is essential.

How long does it take for a Cancer man to fall in love? Not long at all if he feels at ease with you. The best way you can ensure a smooth process from friendship to love is to be compassionate and empathic with him.

Let a Cancer man tell you all of his ideas and fears. Don’t judge him. Be aware that a Cancer man may sense your casual comments as harsher than you intended. He may read too much into what you say or how you say it.

He’ll need a lot of reassurance that your intentions are good and you aren’t trying to criticize him. It can take time and patience to get a Cancer man to put his insecurities and fears aside and trust you, but it’s worth the effort.

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Don’t Criticize His Feelings

If you want something serious with your Cancer man and casual relationships are all you are finding, you may be making this critical mistake. Never criticize a Cancer man’s feelings. If you do, he’ll shut down and shy away from you.

Just as you need to listen with an open mind when he tells you his thoughts about the world, so too is it important to be compassionate and understanding about his feelings. A Cancer man’s emotions are central to his understanding of the whole world.

He will feel personally disrespected if you criticize him for feeling a certain way. Even a Cancer man madly in love will shut down in a heartbeat if you criticize his feelings. Doing so makes him feel vulnerable and he is easily wounded.

When a Cancer man loves a woman, her opinion of him means everything. He will be shattered if he feels like his love interest is making light of something as serious as his emotions. He needs to know he can trust you with his feelings.

Respect His Family

Always show the utmost respect for a Cancer man’s family. This is confusing to some women because he may joke about or criticize his mother as a way to vent. Yet he never expects you to join in.

If you do, or if you make your own observations about annoying things his family does, he’ll lose any connection he had to you. He’ll feel completely turned off by any badmouthing of his parents or family.

If you have a problem with something his family does, it’s best to keep it to yourself. When the relationship becomes more serious and you absolutely need to address an issue, always pick your battles.

Be careful how you speak about his family members and always act as if you have respect for them. You don’t have to like them or agree with them, but don’t insult or criticize them in front of your Cancer man.

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Be Nurturing

If you want to make a Cancer man fall in love with you, show your soft and nurturing side. Always encourage him to move forward towards his dreams. This sounds simple, but a Cancer man needs a hefty dose of encouragement.

He’s so insecure that he may doubt himself or need constant reassurance of his potential. The more you nurture him and encourage him to see his potential, the more he’ll fall in love with you.

Also, nurture his emotional connection to you. Encourage him to open up and talk about what is in his heart. Take baby steps and be patient. Nurturing a Cancer man can be like coaxing a shy child.

Yet your efforts will pay off. A Cancer man who sees that you are caring, compassionate, nurturing and patient will fall in love with you. He’ll be completely devoted to you as well.

Don’t Make Him Jealous

Never toy with a Cancer man’s heart. If you think he’s being too slow to open up and you want to test him by making him jealous, you’re playing with fire. It’s a big mistake to do this.

When you make a Cancer man jealous, you’ll either scare him away completely or shatter his trust in you so badly that even when he’s committed to you, he’ll still always second guess you and your intentions.

You don’t want to set the foundation for the relationship on this note. Doing so will bring out his neurotic and possessive side. It will completely backfire. Even if your Cancer man takes the relationship more seriously, he’ll be needy and moody.

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Talk About Wanting Children

Speak positively about parenthood. Casually mention how much you want children or talk about your children if you’re already a mother. When you get a Cancer man to envision you with a family, he gets excited.

He’ll fall in love with you as a mother to his future children. He’ll also fall in love with the idea of being a stepdad to your kids if you have children already. Cancer men adore children and want to have families.

When you speak about how important children are to you, you’ll win his heart. He will want to be with you and to start a family. You may think this is jumping ahead too fast, but for a Cancer man it is part of the attraction.

Be Traditional

Cancer men love traditional romance. He wants to court you in an old-fashioned way. Let him open doors, pay for meals, make the first moves. Let him show you how much he adores you at a slow and gentlemanly pace.

When you have strong boundaries and don’t rush to be intimate, he’ll be reassured that he’s the only one in your life. When you show your traditional values toward work, money and family, he’ll feel more secure with you.

You can get a Cancer man to warm up to you by sharing stories about your traditional holiday celebrations with family or traditional roles in your family. He’ll also fantasize about starting his own traditions with you.

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Be Financially Stable

A Cancer man may fall in love with you if your credit is a mess and you never pay bills on time, but it’s less likely. At the very least, it will take him longer to trust you. Cancer men need to see that you take finances seriously.

If you have a secure financial foundation, he’ll be able to trust your dependability and consistency. He’ll open up to you and feel more connected to you. He’s not interested in your money, though.

He just wants to know you share financial priorities. He wants to be reassured you won’t break his budget when the relationship becomes more serious. He’ll fall in love with you when he sees you can keep a balanced budget.