What Happens When a Virgo Man Gets Mad?

A Virgo man is territorial. Especially when it comes to his time, energy and knowledge. If he thinks you’re taking advantage of him, look out.

He’ll get mad but you may not see it right away. He’s not passionate. Why does a Virgo man ignore you? This is actually his final stage of anger.

It means he has already tried to give you other cues and it didn’t work. Don’t worry, a Virgo man always comes back. It’s best to be prepared and avoid conflict.

His Emotional Barometer is Set Lower

A Virgo man doesn’t show anger in the same way as other men because his emotional barometer is set low. He is more neutral and logical than most other people. He prefers to avoid emotion altogether.

He truly believes that if people understand what they are doing wrong, they won’t do it. Therefore he sees it as his job to try to educate you if you are doing something he doesn’t like. He’ll try to appeal to your sense of reason.

A Virgo man attracted to you will be extra patient. He’ll start by pointing out what you are doing that he doesn’t like. This may seem like a casual comment. If you don’t get it, he’ll be more direct.

But nothing about his style at this point will resemble anger. That is because at this phase he is not really showing any passion. You may not realize just how upset he is. He’s still being logical.

It’s safe to assume a Virgo man who gives you feedback or even criticism may not be angry in the moment but is serious. He’s upset about something and trying to objectively point it out to you.

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Long Before He Shows Anger, He’ll Try to Reason with You

How does a Virgo man test you? He doesn’t. He just takes his time and evaluates whether you are a good fit for him. This is enough of a testing process of sorts though it is not intentional. He isn’t out to trip you up.

He doesn’t like to play games. When he’s upset about something he can be quite assertive in pointing it out. He’ll first try to reason with you. He doesn’t see the point in getting into arguments.

He’ll present his side of the story and point out what he would like to see you do different in the future. A Virgo man doesn’t want to argue or hold onto resentments. Whatever caused him to feel upset, he just wants to see it resolved.

He would rather help you fix a problem than argue over who is at fault. You can count on him to be reasonable and rational. He doesn’t like drama and prefers to keep his feelings out of the picture.

When Reasoning Doesn’t Work, He’ll Start Nagging

A Virgo man in love wants to give you the benefit of the doubt. If his efforts to reason, teach and explain things to you don’t give the outcome he’s looking for, he’ll nag. This is one of his less flattering behaviors.

He doesn’t want to pester you, but he will methodically and consistently remind you of what is going wrong so that you will have “prompts” and encouragement to change the behavior. He isn’t trying to hold a grudge.

He just wants to be reassured that you’ll make the changes he wants and do things differently. He doesn’t mind the tedium of nagging because he’s detail oriented. Yet after a while the effort will start to annoy him.

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He’ll Go Quiet to Preserve His Sense of Control

What happens when a Virgo man ignores you, is he’s decided to take his power back. Before he even acts angry in the conventional sense, he’ll realize he’s putting too much energy into trying to nag you.

This is not productive and if he is anything, a Virgo man is efficient. If nagging isn’t working and reasoning isn’t working, a Virgo man will just ignore you. He’ll realize his efforts are in vain.

Why does a Virgo man withdraw? Because he has come to the conclusion that you aren’t willing to hear him and work with him. He’s actually going silent to prevent an argument. Detaching is how he prevents his disappointment or pain from turning to anger.

What is the best thing to do when a Virgo man is distant? Take his silence as a form of communication. Step back and focus on yourself. Reflect on what may have upset him and what his feedback really means.

If you can make some reasonable changes to accommodate whatever has upset him, it’s best to do so. Don’t pursue him. Let him have some space to cool off. He may not have seemed angry but he’s good at hiding his feelings.

When he reaches out again, don’t just tell him you’ve taken his advice to heart. Show him. Let him see through your actions that you’ve learned from the past and are making changes.

If He is Pushed Too Far, He Can Be Abrupt

Before a Virgo man retreats, he’ll try to work things out logically and without emotion. Yet if he feels you are pushing his boundaries don’t be surprised if he pushes back. A Virgo man can be abrupt.

One of the early red flags that he may be more angry than he lets on is when his tone of voice suddenly becomes ice cold. He won’t yell. If anything he may become quiet.

A Virgo man can become curt and though he isn’t one to go for personal insults, he will use a stern tone to get his point across. He may sound harsh but he’s trying to show that he’s serious.

He knows that less is sometimes more and communication is energy. The more he feels you aren’t listening or respecting his boundaries, the less energy he’s going to put into the relationship.

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He Avoids Unnecessary Cruelty and Sticks to the Facts

Though it is possible for a Virgo man to reach the point where he totally goes out of character and becomes insulting, this is rare. Usually a Virgo man is like a detective. He only wants the facts.
He won’t make personal insults or accusations typically. He only wants to know that the issue at hand is being taken seriously and that you will change or help him resolve it.

He is a problem solver. He would rather dive into the details of what has gone wrong so he can properly fix the problem. He doesn’t like to waste time arguing with you about who is at fault or what other personal issues are going on.

A Virgo man is only critical in an effort to try to fix or resolve things. He doesn’t want to make matters personal and will avoid drama at all costs. He is truly just trying to stick to the data and objective information.

If the Triggering Issue Doesn’t Change, He’ll Back Off

If over time the issue that triggered him to become upset is not addressed, or if it is but to no avail, he’ll back away. He likes to fix things, but he knows his limits.

In fact, he may even think you’re not taking his efforts to solve the problem seriously. The worst thing for a Virgo man is to feel like he is the only one trying to resolve the problem. He needs to see you take it seriously.

He can be patient and work with you if that is what it takes. Yet if he is trying to help you resolve a problem or address the situation that upset him and you aren’t meeting him halfway, he’ll conclude he’s wasting his time.

This is when he’ll start to really shut down. He may stop talking to you or find reasons to not get together as much. He may become more quiet than usual or act less interested.

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If Nothing Else Works, He May Lose His Temper

It’s rare that a Virgo man loses his temper but it can happen. He’s human, even though he tries to act like a robot. When he loses his temper you’ll know it.

He won’t insult you or break things, but he will raise his tone and express his frustration. He’s too mature to ever really lose control so the most he will do when he loses his temper is to yell. Even then he will usually focus on facts.

He doesn’t like to go off on tangents even when he’s angry. He may also catch himself losing control and leave. This way he knows he can save face and also de-escalate himself before things get out of hand.

He Avoids Losing His Cool at all Costs

A Virgo man tries to be in control of every area of his life. This is also true when it comes to his temper. A Virgo man doesn’t like to be at the mercy of his emotions.

He knows nothing good ever comes from losing control of his rational, logical side. Instead of losing control, he would rather deal with the problem and fix it. He actually sees anger as a waste of time.

A Virgo man would rather maintain his composure. This give him the upper hand and helps him steer clear of unnecessary complications that arise when passions are heightened.

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He Would Rather Walk Away Than Get into Drama

When a Virgo man walks away, he’s not out of love with you. He’s trying to avoid drama. A Virgo man in love would rather keep cool so he doesn’t say or do things that he’ll regret later.

This doesn’t mean he’s trying to ignore you. It actually means he cares and is doing you a favor. He’s also walking away to give you a chance to calm down and think before you react.

The last thing you want to do is chase him. Give him space, also give yourself a chance to calm down. This is critical. You both need to gain perspective before trying to further communicate.

If He Can Cool Off, He’ll Try to Be Rational

One of the benefits to him walking away is that it allows him to calm down. When he does cool off, he’ll be back to his methodical, rational self. This is when he will reconnect with you.

Virgo men come back around because they really do want to solve the problem. They really want to work things out. Expect him to reach out when he’s ready.

He’ll try to approach the situation with his logical, detail oriented style. This is an ideal time to try to learn from the past and show him you’re willing to work with him.