Are Libra Men Submissive in a Relationship?

One of the biggest tricks to knowing how to handle a Libra man is understanding his submissive nature. Otherwise, you’ll see a Libra man’s passive-aggressive side.

A Libra man’s personality is easy to understand when you consider his sign’s symbol, the scales. He always wants to make sure things balance out.

Thus, when he needs to be assertive and make a clear commitment, he will. Yet usually, a Libra man prefers a more passive approach. He prefers to go with the flow.

Libra Men are Submissive Most of the Time

In nine out of ten situations, a Libra man will be submissive and compliant. He prefers to go along with what you want and not make waves.

On the rare occasion when he is not submissive, it can appear surprising. You may not be expecting a quiet, jovial, good-natured Libra man to suddenly become assertive. He saves these occasions for when he sees acts of injustice.

He can shock others around him by suddenly finding his voice and insisting that something be done about an unfair or unjust situation. Yet almost any other time, Libra men are docile and peace loving.

They will stretch themselves outside of their comfort zone in order to avoid creating conflict. Libra men try to avoid drama as well. You may get used to having things your way when you’re with a Libra man.

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He’s Indecisive

One of the signs a Libra man likes you is when he lets you take the lead and make all the important decisions. In part, this is a sign he trusts your judgment. It’s also a natural result of his indecisive nature.

Libra men don’t like to be in charge. They prefer supporting roles in a relationship to being the leader. Part of this stems from their desire to avoid taking responsibility if things don’t work out.

A Libra man will defer to your decision making. At the very least, he knows it will give him a chance to try new things. At best it saves him the trouble of conflict or confrontation if you don’t like his ideas.

This can backfire over time if he builds up resentments. Yet it is often his own doing. He will pretend to be open to any option you suggest. It’s only if he feels he’s being overlooked that he may become sulky.

He Prefers to Balance Your Energy

A Libra man likes to find balance in polarity and opposites. If you are naturally assertive, he has no problem balancing your energy by being passive. It doesn’t hurt his ego to not be in charge.

A Libra man in bed can also be passive. He will let you set the tone for intimacy. He prefers to have a relationship built on balance and harmony.

When you’re upset or angry he may become even more quiet. If you’re being quiet, he may show his entertaining and boisterous side.

He may go as far as trying to present an opposite perspective to maintain balance and harmony in the relationship. When he does this, it seldom looks like arguing. He’s not trying to be confrontational.

He’s simply trying to ensure that you don’t get too committed to one perspective without considering other options. Libra men are all about seeing a situation from many angles.

One of a Libra man’s falling in love signs is that he’ll become even more willing to please you. He may submit to your every wish and request. This can seem flattering, but it’s important to keep him from developing resentments.

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If You’re Submissive He’ll Take the Lead

Periodically, it helps to push a Libra man to be more assertive. This is one way to avoid passive-aggressiveness in a relationship and keep him from developing resentments.

One way to do this is to take on a more submissive role yourself. If you suddenly become more passive, a Libra man will balance your energy by taking initiative and becoming more direct.

This is also a helpful tactic to use in order to get a Libra man to chase you. If you are wondering how to know if a Libra man is playing you, step back. If he takes the lead, he’s serious about pursuing you.

Don’t chase a Libra man. Instead, periodically put him in a position to have to take initiative. This is particularly helpful if you’ve seen signs a Libra man is losing interest.

When you do this, you are using a subtle change in dynamics to push him toward a more assertive role. This makes a Libra man invest more energy in the relationship.

He Avoids Confrontation

Though he brings it on himself by being too much of a people-pleaser, sometimes a Libra man will become cranky or resentful if he doesn’t feel heard and validated.

When a Libra man ignores you, it may be because of some small grievance that he doesn’t want to deal with directly. Rather than facing you and talking about the issue, he’ll go quiet.

This is because Libra men mostly fear confrontation. They try their best to avoid having difficult conversations. They prefer it when everything is happy and harmonious.

Yet this is not realistic. Especially in a relationship. It can be difficult to respond to a conflict with a Libra man because he’ll hide his feelings at firs. He will try to make it seem like everything is fine.

When he’s acting avoidant or passive-aggressive, try to redirect his attention to creating harmony by dealing with whatever is bothering him. When he feels he will be accepted and validated, he’ll open up.

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He Prefers to be Diplomatic

Even if you confront him about an issue, do so in a compassionate way. Avoid being too dramatic, emotional or demanding. Point out specific issues with the goal of solving a problem, not getting even.

Libra men are diplomatic. If they have to deal with a problem, they would rather be neutral and polite about it than resort to drama and aggression. He may be the peacekeeper among his friends for this reason.

Libra men will find the most polite and even flattering terms to use when telling someone bad news. They don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and prefer to get through conflicts with the least amount of damage.

It’s important to know that he may conceal just how upset he is by a situation. You may be reassured because a Libra man did not show his anger, but that doesn’t mean he’s not still angry about an issue.

It can take some digging to finally get a Libra man to admit how he is feeling. Part of his passive role in relationships means that he tries to skim the surface when it comes to talking about how he feels.

He Tries to be a Mediator

Another way a Libra man’s submissive side manifests is his desire to always find the middle ground. He’s adept at taking on different points of view. For this reason, he makes a great mediator.

He will try to stay moderate in the face of a conflict. When you’re upset with him, he’ll try to take a different perspective in order to balance things out. He may also try to find common ground to avoid fights.

Libra men take their assumed job of mediator seriously. It fits well with their humility and natural tendency to be passive. He would rather come to a solution that makes everyone happy than have the last word and prove he was right.

A Libra man values peace, balance and harmony. These are all qualities that make him a natural mediator. He will try to find the middle path that satisfies everyone. Even if he loses himself in the process, he doesn’t care.

Libra men know instinctively that there is more to life than getting their own way. They also believe that it is more important to be happy than to be proven right. A Libra man needs to feel like he can find a way to please everyone around him.

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He Won’t Dominate Other People

The last thing a Libra man ever wants to do is dominate other people. At best, when he shows assertiveness, he’s doing so in order to bring things back to balance.

When it comes to issues of justice and fairness he can have strong opinions. Yet it is never his goal to dominate others and force them to do what he says or think the way he thinks. His strong opinions serve to uplift others.

He would rather live and let live than try to push people to make choices he thinks are best. In fact, Libra men can be so passive that even as he’s expressing one of his opinions, he can talk himself into taking the opposite viewpoint.

Libra men don’t like the idea of bullying and they go out of their way to show respect for others who have differences of opinion. A Libra man’s favorite saying can be “Let’s agree to disagree.”

He doesn’t want to be in charge in a relationship and he’ll accept you being in charge. Yet what he really wants is a relationship in which it is clear that you are both partner. Where you share power evenly.