Why is Virgo Man Slow to Commit to a Relationship?

A Virgo man is slow in relationships just as he is methodical and cautious about all his endeavors. He tends to every tedious detail and this halts his passions.

Being patient with a Virgo man is essential. He never acts on impulse and he has no problem reserving his desires. He pushes emotions aside and acts logically.

A Virgo man will carefully analyze every aspect of the relationship and your compatibility. Even with signs a Virgo man cares, he may still hold back.

What Commitment Means to a Virgo Man

Will a Virgo man test you? No. He is sincere when he shows interest and if he doesn’t see a future for you, he won’t bother. A Virgo man takes his commitments very seriously.

Giving a Virgo man space is the best way to let him get comfortable and secure. As time goes on, a Virgo man who is really interested in you will evaluate whether your connection has what it takes to reach long term commitment level.

One of the reasons he is so slow is because he assumes any form of dating will become more serious in the long run. He doesn’t evaluate you as a date, he evaluates you as a long term partner for life.

If you are considering dating a Virgo man, make sure you are absolutely serious and committed. Although he is slow to open up and make a firm commitment he will be yours for life when he finally does.

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He Does Everything Slowly

Perhaps you have noticed a Virgo man’s deep stare. When he looks at you for any period of time, he’s being thoughtful and even analytical. He’s not lost in emotional longing.

Instead he is observing you carefully. He may be lost in thought as well as he is always intellectual and contemplative. A Virgo man may examine a broken item for a long time as he mentally calculates how to fix it.

He’ll look through the pantry carefully before deciding what to make for dinner. He does everything at a slow pace. He believes the old saying “Haste makes waste.” He doesn’t want to waste or overlook anything.

The same is true with relationships. Only in this regard he sees waste as wasted time or wasted energy if he doesn’t take the time to really make sure everything is perfect. He’ll take small steps to make sure he is building a solid foundation.

He’s a Perfectionist

If there is one universal truth to understanding a Virgo man, it is knowing that he is a perfectionist. A Virgo man sets high standards for himself and for everyone else around him.

One of the reasons he is slow to make a commitment is because he wants to consider every last factor of both of your personalities. He wants to make sure you are perfect for him.

This doesn’t mean you can never make mistakes. Nor does it mean you should stress about every decision you make because you’re being evaluated. He knows no one is actually perfect. He just wants to be sure you fit into his life.

A Virgo man has a clear sense of obligation and with this, schedules, routines and work that he does to fulfill his sense of mission. When he wavers back and forth about commitment, he’s assessing how well you fit in to his lifestyle and routines.

Does your style complement his? You don’t have to be just like him. He actually likes the subtle differences. He’ll like that you’re more nurturing and emotional, as long as you aren’t smothering and attracted to drama.

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He’s Meticulous, Even in Love

A Virgo man is methodical in every aspect of his life. He’s not one to swoon with passion or be swept away in a moment of love and affection. Rather he will continue to take the slow and steady route to love.

He believes anything worthwhile takes time. This allows him to analyze and critique every aspect of the relationship. At times it may seem like he’s nit picking and criticizing you. Don’t take it personally.

It’s his way of scouring through any potential problems that may arise in the relationship. A Virgo man approaches relationships like an auditor. He’s looking for problems so he can solve them before they happen or before they escalate.

Many women assume that affairs of the heart won’t be subject to this same response from a Virgo man. To assume this underestimates how intellectual and logically driven he is.

He Won’t Commit Until He’s Ready

Leaving a Virgo man alone to figure out if he really wants a serious relationship is one of the hardest aspects of dating a man born under this sign. Yet it may just save the relationship.

He’ll often back up at some point during courtship. This can lead many women to panic. There is no need to think the worst. If a Virgo man has become more aloof or slow to respond, he’s evaluating things.

He’s not cutting you off. The best thing to do is wait it out. Show him that you are patient and don’t put pressure on him. Once he’s done considering the pros and cons, he’ll likely re-emerge and continue to court you.

In fact, some time away may be exactly what he needs to realize what it is like to miss you. The key is to let him initiate the disconnection. If you step back first, he’ll misread your intentions and assume you are no longer interested.

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He Needs to Make Sure You’re Reliable

A Virgo man is assessing many things in his slow stride through early courtship. One of the things he’s carefully observing is whether or not you are reliable.

Virgo men are so consistent you can set your watch by them. He follows the same routines almost every day. He’s got a plan for everything. He’s ready ten steps in advance for any situation because he’s so cautious and analytical.

He knows you may not be as fanatical about timing and schedules as he is but he will look for evidence that you are consistent and reliable. A Virgo man wants to see that you follow through with what you say.

Do your actions match your words? Are you on time? Can he count on you to not gossip to others? These are all important factors that he is weighing in his decision to commit or not.

He Takes His Time

A Virgo man is never in a rush. He knows only bad things will happen if he lets his guard down and acts impulsively. He is caring and conscientious but in order to keep his high perfectionist standards he has to move slowly.

It would be romantic to assume a Virgo man is savoring every moment in the courtship process. That may be true but it is only partially true. He isn’t sensual as much as he is methodical.

He’s taking in every detail, but analytically and not because of romantic inclinations. He’s likely to be quite anxious but he channels his anxiety into actions so it seems he’s always got something to fix, make or fuss over.

He doesn’t overload himself because he plans to give every area of his life his full undivided attention. He knows this will naturally take time. A Virgo man allows himself plenty of leeway to settle in to a new relationship without any sense of urgency.

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He Needs to See How You React

A Virgo man, when interested in you, will carefully watch to see how different situations impact you. Part of the reason he is slow to respond is because he wants to see what you are like over time.

He knows that many women can put their best foot forward during courtship. He’s waiting it out to see if you suddenly change or if other aspects of your nature start to emerge. This is especially true in your stress reaction.

He’s looking to evaluate how you respond to conflicts. If you become too explosive or reactive, he’ll see this as a red flag. If you remain calm and grounded, he will see this as a good sign that he can spend his life with you.

In this way he takes a clue from some employers who test their job candidates during the interview. By asking intentionally difficult questions or asking the candidate to perform an impossible task, the interviewer then gets to observe what the person is like under pressure.

Virgo men avoid conflict, so he won’t intentionally create chaos or problems for you. He will watch to see how you respond to conflicts that occur naturally.

He Evaluates You Carefully

A Virgo man will evaluate everything from your appearance to your response to stress to how you treat strangers. When he looks at your appearance, he’s not expecting to see a supermodel.

What he does look for, though, is evidence that you care about hygiene and that you are organized. He’ll watch to see if your grooming and manner of dress is professional. He’ll also notice how you keep your car. Is it organized and clean or a mess?

These things matter to a Virgo man. If your car, home or personal appearance is messy he will assume some things about you that can deter him from wanting a serious commitment.

He notices if you care about your health. He’s health conscious and wants to know that you take health and personal care seriously.

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He’s Always Analyzing the Relationship

Think you’re in the clear once he professes his love for you? Think again. It is in a Virgo man’s nature to have a level of ongoing anxiety that leads him to constantly analyze everything.

He is always scanning his surroundings to see what may fall, break, go wrong, explode or catch fire. He doesn’t usually act panicked so you may not know this is how his mind operates. Yet he’s always looking for red flags.

This is true in relationships as well. A Virgo man will continue to evaluate and analyze the relationship even over time. When he does commit, he’s going to take his obligation to you seriously.

He’s doing this to make sure the relationship is solid and long lasting, not to upset you. Try to see it as an opportunity to build a solid foundation and live up to your highest potential as a couple.