10 Signs a Virgo Man is Playing You

If your Virgo man is playing you, he will likely never become warmer or more open, no matter how long you’ve known him. He’ll be secretive and distrustful even if you’ve been together for a while.

Virgo men can be emotionally distant, but a Virgo man who is in a relationship with you shouldn’t be. If he is, he might be playing you.

A Virgo man who is playing you will be incredibly inconsiderate. He won’t care about your feelings. He won’t listen to you or be at all interested in your life.

1. He’s Secretive

Do Virgo men play mind games? Some do, though many prefer not to play games in relationships. A Virgo man playing you will likely be secretive but don’t always assume that’s the case.

If your Virgo man is secretive at the beginning of your relationship, he might have trouble opening up. Talk to him about it, and you’ll likely find that he’s uncomfortable with a specific subject or that something else is going on.

A Virgo man using you will remain secretive and brush your concerns aside. He will continue being secretive no matter how long you two are together.

Your Virgo man might be secretive because you’re not the only woman he’s seeing. In that case, you’ll likely see many of these other signs in combination with his secretive nature. He’ll seem like he’s trying to hide something!

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2. He’s Inconsiderate

Will a Virgo man play you? Many Virgo men will not. However, it’s not impossible! If yours is playing you, he will likely be highly inconsiderate of your feelings.

Some Virgo men are considerate to a fault. They are people-pleasers and often put the needs of others before their own needs. A Virgo man playing you will always put himself first, though.

If your Virgo man constantly says insensitive things to you and doesn’t care that you’re upset, he might be playing you.

A Virgo man who cares about you might criticize you or say something insensitive occasionally, but he’ll never be cruel. He will apologize for upsetting you and try to do better in the future.

A Virgo man who is playing you will never consider your feelings before saying something. He definitely won’t apologize or change his behavior when he upsets you, either.

3. He Won’t Talk About The Future

One of the most obvious signs a Virgo man is not serious about you is that he will refuse to discuss the future with you.

A Virgo man who is serious about you will want to discuss the future you two will have together. Even if he’s not ready, he’ll talk about things like moving in together or marriage.

A Virgo man who is not serious about you will avoid these topics entirely. He will likely refuse to make plans with you or talk about the immediate future because he doesn’t plan to stick around.

A Virgo man pulling away and refusing to talk about the future any longer is a sign that he’s done with you. If your Virgo man never spoke about the future with you, he likely was never serious about you, to begin with.

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4. You’ve Never Met His Family

One of the obvious signs a Virgo man is using you is that you’ve never met his family. If he’s playing you and has other women in his life, you might not meet his friends either.

A Virgo man who is playing you won’t introduce you to his family for various reasons. The main reason is that he doesn’t intend to keep you in his life, so he won’t bother connecting you to the people he cares about.

If your Virgo man has another partner and he’s dating you on the side, he definitely won’t introduce you to his family. He won’t want them to know that he’s being unfaithful!

Talk to your Virgo man if you haven’t met his family. If he is not ready, he’ll listen to your concerns and discuss things. If he’s playing you, he’ll make excuses and brush your worries aside.

5. He’s Never Available

Virgo men tend to be busy, so it’s likely that a Virgo man who cares about you will be unavailable at times. He should be available in an emergency, though, and he should make time for you when he can.

If your Virgo man is never around when you need him, ask yourself why that might be. He might be playing you if he’s never there to offer support when you genuinely need it.

A Virgo man who is playing you might only be available when he wants something. He won’t schedule regular date nights or bother responding to your messages when you need to talk to him.

Talk to your Virgo man if he starts to become increasingly unavailable. A Virgo man who is playing you won’t care. A Virgo man who loves you will try to fix the problem!

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6. He’s Bad At Communicating

Being bad at communication is one of a Virgo man’s red flags because, usually, Virgo men are excellent communicators! Something is wrong if there’s a communication breakdown between you two.

Mercury, the planet of communication, rules Virgo. Virgo men are great communicators, and communication is essential to them. If you have a genuine communication issue with a Virgo man who loves you, he’ll try to fix it.

A Virgo man who refuses to communicate with you might be playing you. He won’t care if there are misunderstandings between you two because he likely doesn’t intend on sticking around for long.

A Virgo man who won’t talk to you might be hiding something. He may also not enjoy talking to you, which is a huge issue!

7. He’s Emotionally Distant

A Virgo man who is just as emotionally distant after months of dating as he was when you first met might be playing you.

A Virgo man who sends mixed signals by opening up, then completely pulling away might also be playing you. Pay attention to when and why he opens up. Does he only do it when he wants something or when you threaten to end things with him?

A Virgo man mixed signals and emotional distance isn’t always a sign that he’s playing you. In combination with other signs, this is something to look out for.

If a Virgo man has trouble opening up, he’ll likely communicate that to you! He’ll still work on your relationship and try to be more open.

A Virgo man who refuses to open up and doesn’t see his emotional distance as an issue might be playing you.

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8. He Doesn’t Trust You

Trust is essential to a Virgo man in a relationship. If he can’t trust his partner, he will do what he can to build trust, or he’ll end the relationship.

A Virgo man who doesn’t trust you and doesn’t seem to care about this might be playing you.

If he’s playing you, a Virgo man won’t need to trust you. He likely won’t open up or share anything too personal with you. He’ll be secretive and hide his true feelings from you.

A Virgo man who refuses to trust you shouldn’t want a relationship with you. If he does, something is going on. He might be using you for something, and he’ll leave as soon as he’s done getting what he wants.

9. He Never Listens To You

If you want to know how to beat a Virgo man at his own game, don’t listen to him, either. It will get under a Virgo man’s skin if you ignore him, especially if he wants your attention.

Virgo men are usually good listeners, especially when talking to those they love. They can be supportive and helpful and are also good at offering advice.

If your Virgo man doesn’t listen to a word you say, there is something wrong. He might not care about you if he constantly ignores you or seems distracted when you genuinely need to talk to him.

If a Virgo man is uninterested in what you say, he might be playing you. There might be times when a Virgo man who does love you might not listen, but it shouldn’t be a habit!

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10. He’s Not Interested In Your Life

A Virgo man who is using you will have no interest in your life. He won’t care about your interests and hobbies and likely won’t pay attention when you tell him about yourself.

Not having an interest in your life is also a sign a Virgo man is losing interest in you. If your Virgo man used to show interest but no longer does, your relationship will likely end soon.

If your Virgo man never showed interest in your life, he’s probably playing you. He may also be playing you if he only shows interest when he wants something from you.

Your Virgo man won’t remember your likes and dislikes if he’s playing you. He won’t care to try your hobbies with you and probably won’t even know what they are.