How to Talk to a Sagittarius Man About Feelings

Maybe you’ve seen the signs a Sagittarius man has feelings for you. You wait for him to profess his love. But days, then weeks go by and he doesn’t open his heart to you.

You may be wondering what went wrong? Maybe you try to kickstart a conversation about how he’s feeling. Then he ghosts you altogether. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Many women unknowingly fall into the Sagittarius man’s feelings trap. You need to take the vulnerability and risk out of the picture if you want him to talk feelings.

Talk Philosophically

A Sagittarius man in love’s behavior will show you everything you need to know about how he feels. He will show you instead of telling you how he feels about you so you have to watch his actions rather than waiting for him to say all the right words. Chances are, he’s already told you how he feels anyway.

He most likely told you exactly what he feels but through a lens of philosophy, not emotion. If you listen carefully to a Sagittarius man, you’ll understand his feelings without a doubt. Just don’t expect him to personalize the communication. Instead, he’ll make his feelings known by being pedantic or self-righteous.

Pay attention to his ideals and speak about your philosophy or vision and you’ll end up meeting him on his territory. He’ll become more comfortable opening up and talking about how he feels through conversations about his higher beliefs and visions.

You may have to interpret his message to a degree, he’ll speak with broad references rather than focusing on the details ofhow he feels about you.

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Remain Calm

When a Sagittarius man says he loves you, take him at his word. This is not something he’ll say just to manipulate you. Sagittarius men are too honest to throw the word “love” around carelessly. They are also too moral to deceive you. Yet it can take a long time to get him to utter this phrase.

As you are waiting for him to open up about how he feels, remain calm. A Sagittarius man loves excitement but he doesn’t like to feel pressured.

Drama or manipulation geared at making him open up and profess his love will instead make him run in the opposite direction. If he sees that you are calm and laid back, he’ll feel no pressure.

This is ideal for a Sagittarius man. His feelings for you will likely grow when he doesn’t feel pressured by ultimatums or demands.

Let him open up about his feelings in his own time. When he does, he may just give little hints. Stay calm and if you’re disappointed, keep a positive perspective. He could be on his way to telling you how he feels on a deeper level.

Give a Sagittarius man time and lots of breathing room. Don’t panic if a certain amount of time has gone by and he hasn’t opened his heart to you. The standard milestones in a relationship can take longer for a freedom loving Sagittarius guy.

Be Slightly Detached

If you think the way to get a Sagittarius man to open up to you is to passionately profess how much you love him and can’t live without him, think again. This is the best way to lose a Sagittarius man. Instead, be detached enough to keep him wondering about his status.

If he knows you want him and love him, he will shy away from you. If you want him to open up about his feelings and talk about how much he cares, stay at an arm’s length. Make him pursue you. Make him wonder if you’re really as interested in him as he is in you.

In short, don’t act too attached. Sagittarius men can’t handle emotional attachment as they feel it is stifling. When you act distant, he’ll be intrigued by you.

He’ll want to let you know he cares as a way of solidifying the relationship. He’ll also assume he has work to do to win your heart.

It is to your advantage to let him assume this. Sagittarius is a feisty fire sign and he needs a challenge. If the relationship is too easy going, he will become bored and move on.

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Don’t Confront Him

If you try to seduce him by showing him one of a Sagittarius man’s favorite body parts, your legs, you can get his attention. But this won’t get him to open his heart to you.

He also values your brain. If you can show him how intelligent, fun and carefree you are, this can encourage him to open up to you more.

Whatever you do, don’t confront a Sagittarius man. If you feel like giving him an ultimatum because you’ve been dating for a year and still don’t know where you stand, think again. This will turn him off and won’t have the impact you want.

Sagittarius men don’t open up emotionally because they fear being controlled or manipulated by others. Confronting him is a form of manipulation. At least, he will see it that way. He’ll see it as you trying to exert excessive influence over him and this will not be something he stands for.

Use Humor

When a Sagittarius man is not interested, he will usually let you know. Yet there is a lot of grey area between his signs of interest and then talking about feelings. He may say he “likes” you for months or years before becoming any more emotionally expressive than this.

One way to help a Sagittarius man lighten up is to use humor to disarm his defenses. Sagittarius men love to laugh and they seldom take life seriously. If you show a Sagittarius man that you have as big of an appetite for fun, games and humor as he does, he will more likely let his guard down.

You may even be able to trick his defenses by using light hearted and carefree humor to discuss feelings. Avoid satire and sarcasm when doing this. Instead, make jokes that are nonthreatening to him and can still allow him to save face while getting emotional.

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Show Empathy

Signs that a Sagittarius man likes you as more than a friend include his willingness to travel with you or communicate with you more frequently. Even when in love, he does maintain some distance in relationships. Though he may seem cold in comparison to other men, he does have an abundance of empathy.

He usually directs his empathy toward groups and communities moreso than individuals in close intimate relationships.

If you show empathy when communicating with him, however, he will reciprocate. Getting a Sagittarius man to empathize with you is an important first step to getting him to open up emotionally.

This is because first, he has to figure out what he’s feeling before he can talk about his emotions. Helping him ground himself in empathy is more comfortable for him. From here, he can shift his focus into how he feels about you and can more easily have a discussion about his feelings.

Don’t Expect Vulnerability

If you are wondering how to know if a Sagittarius guy is serious about you, take note of how much time he spends with you. Don’t expect him to pour his heart out in a vulnerable fashion. Even if you try to show vulnerability to role model for him, this will make him uncomfortable.

Instead of setting yourself up for disappointment, expect a Sagittarius man who loves you to be generous, outgoing and passionate when he interacts with you. He’s social and loves to talk to his vast network of friends.

But when he shows a special interest in you, goes out of his way to do things for you and makes an effort to see you frequently, he’s communicating his feelings through his actions. Signs a Sagittarius man is falling in love with you are usually behavioral, not verbal.

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Respect His Boundaries

Eventually, a Sagittarius man will start to be as candid about his feelings as he is about everything else. But this takes him a long time. He needs to get comfortable with you first. Then he needs to see that you live up to his ideals. Then he needs to make sure you won’t stifle his independence.

Once he is convinced he is in a safe relationship and can open up emotionally, he will. Throughout the process, respect his boundaries. Don’t try to push him to open up sooner than he is ready just because you are ready to get serious.

This can be difficult, especially when you’re in love with him. But try to look at his distance as independence and part of his adventurous nature, not personal rejection. He needs more space to roam free no matter how much he loves you.

Role Model

Role modeling vulnerability will backfire, but there are other ways you can role model to help your Sagittarius guy open up to you. Speak the language of feelings in casual conversation. Tell him how you felt about a movie you just saw rather than intellectually analyzing it, for example.

Show your Sagittarius man how to incorporate discussion of feelings into everyday conversations without making it too intense, personal or intimate at first. Work gradually toward greater intimacy over time.

He’ll pick up on the words and phrases you use and this will inspire him to adopt some of the ways you talk about emotion.

He may become more fluent in emotional language by taking your lead. If you want to know how to make a Sagittarius man obsessed with you, keep conversations largely intellectual and only slightly emotional.

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Use Allegory

When you understand a Sagittarius man’s personality, you can find it easier to discuss feelings without him shutting down. Use allegory to describe your feelings. This can include telling him stories and being creative about how you convey your feelings.

This keeps the focus off his deeper and more vulnerable emotions and helps him to relax and explore how he feels about you. It also helps him to not feel overwhelmed or bogged down by your feelings.

Even if he understands the allegory represents the relationship, using this tactic puts enough distance that your Sagittarius love interest is likely to be more comfortable sharing how he feels. Approaching the topic sideways rather than head on helps him to talk about his feelings.