How to Talk to a Cancer Man About Feelings

Understanding a Cancer man is much easier when you gauge his feelings. Since his mood changes so often, you’ve got to get comfortable talking to him about his feelings.

It will save much trouble and misunderstanding if you can learn a Cancer man’s emotional language. Telling a Cancer man how you feel is always a good way to open the channels of communication.

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Be Honest About Your Feelings

A Cancer man’s behavior, when in love, can be hard to decipher. He’ll act hot and cold. He’s usually waiting for you to show vulnerability before he does. If you take the plunge first and start to open up, he’ll follow suit.

Always be honest about your feelings. A Cancer man may seem brusque when he’s not sure where he stands. This is because he doesn’t want to leave himself open to rejection or abandonment. He would rather pretend to be nonchalant than be the first to open up.

Rather than matching him in his self-defense game, it’s best to yield to your own feelings first. When he sees that you’re being courageous and opening up emotionally, he will be inspired to do the same.

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Validate His Emotions

After you kick off the connection by being authentic about your own feelings, the next step to getting him to open up is to validate the feelings he does show. Even if it seems insignificant.

If a Cancer man trusts you with any degree of emotional display, always show empathy. You may wonder how long does it take for a Cancer man to fall in love. The truth is, he is quick to fall in love but not always quick to reveal his emotions.

You can start to help him unravel his layers of defenses by validating his emotions and making him feel heard and understood. Sometimes it helps to share a story to show you empathize with him, but do this sparingly.

If you are too quick to center the conversation on yourself, a Cancer man may come to the conclusion that you are hijacking his emotional moment and not really empathizing with him. Instead, it’s better to try to connect and show your empathy.

Never try to talk a Cancer man out of his feelings. He may seem irrational to you quite frequently. His emotions change like the wind. It is far better to acknowledge his feelings and make him feel like his responses are normal.

Hold Space for a Cancer Man

It won’t take long for him to fall head over heels. A Cancer man madly in love with you will act more like an open book. He’ll reveal his deepest feelings at the drop of a hat. When the emotional floodgates open, look out!

The warning to be careful what you wish for definitely applies to the desire for a Cancer man to show you his emotions. Once he really latches on to you, he’ll speak openly and constantly about his every passing feeling.

It may even get overwhelming. You may find yourself wishing he would hold back a little more. If you’re serious about the relationship with a Cancer man, however, it’s best to practice holding space for him. This can mean listening without judgment.

It also means showing compassion and empathy as you listen to him express all of his doubts, fears, anger and insecurities. He’ll also balance this with dramatic expressions of love and adoration for you. You’ve got to take the good with the bad when it comes to a Cancer man.

Never criticize his feelings, even if you think he’s too easily triggered. You may think he’s over reacting but if he doesn’t feel like you’re a true emotional support and ally, he’ll shut right down again.

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Don’t Suppress His Emotions

One of the biggest signs a Cancer man has feelings for you is when he starts to give you a steady report of his moods from one hour to the next. He may do this at inopportune times, like when you’re running late to a meeting.

Yet even if you’re busy and it’s not the best time to talk, always be sure to at least devote some time to hearing him out. Even if you have to tell him you’ll finish a conversation with him later. It’s far better to let him express his feelings when the urge strikes him.

If he feels like you’re trying to suppress his emotions or pushing him aside, he’ll be devastated. He may push this reaction down and not show you his deep level of disappointment. Yet you can rest assured he’ll be sulking in silence.

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Choose Your Timing

If you’re wondering if you’re seeing signs a Cancer man is falling in love with you or sigs a Cancer man is playing you, rest assured he doesn’t play games. A Cancer man doesn’t lead you on.

If he acts serious and invests time and energy pursuing you and if he shows affection and tenderness, he’s showing you physical signs a Cancer man likes you. When it comes to relationships, he always takes this seriously.

He doesn’t pretend when it comes to love. You may think he’s giving you mixed signals at times. If this happens, look at the bigger picture. When you try to have serious, sentimental conversations and he doesn’t respond, your timing may be off.

This is a common obstacle. If you are trying to be too serious and he isn’t ready to talk, or if there is a lot on his plate already, a Cancer man may shy away from emotional conversation. Don’t take this as rejection. More often than not, he’s not pushing you away.

Choose your timing wisely. When he’s relaxed, after a good meal and when there is plenty of time to snuggle on the couch with soft music in the background, the timing is right. Otherwise, you run the risk of pushing him into his shell.

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Don’t Rush Him

On that note, never rush a Cancer man. His feelings run deep and if he isn’t opening up, he has his reasons. He may feel like a tsunami will be unleashed if he starts to take his walls down. You may think you can handle his moods, but he knows best.

Trust him to open up to you when he’s ready. All you need to do is show empathy and compassion and he will feel a strong connection to you. You don’t need to force the connection and its best not to.

A Cancer man will be able to gauge when the time is right to talk about his deeper feelings. When in doubt, you can always come right out and ask if he is in the mood for a heart to heart talk. If you do this, frame the conversation.

If its not a “bad” message, such as a serious talk about breaking up, let him know its nothing bad. If it is serious and unpleasant, set the tone for a serious conversation that requires you both to be present mentally and emotionally.

Be Encouraging

When he gives a little, show great praise and encouragement. Never treat a Cancer man like he’s not trying hard enough. Even if you want more, know that he is going to open up to you in his time.

For someone as sensitive as he is, even a little vulnerability is a big deal. He doesn’t want to let all his walls down at once. Don’t criticize him for being closed off. Instead, encourage him with positive reinforcement when he opens up.

Always be positive with a Cancer man. Even if he’s in a low mood, being confident and optimistic helps a Cancer man feel at ease with you. He benefits from knowing you appreciate his emotional vulnerability when he does show it.

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Be Patient

You can never be too patient with a Cancer man. He needs to see that you aren’t going to push him too far out of his comfort zone. You will need to understand his moods. His optimism one day may switch to despair the next day.

If you take his current emotion as being set in stone, life with him will be confusing and frustrating. It’s far better to just be patient and see what his moods and opinions are over time.

This is the best way to get a sense of what a Cancer man really wants in the relationship as well. When things first start to get serious, he may shut down slightly. Give him space to back track, then encourage him to open up again.

Take His Feelings Seriously

Always take a Cancer man’s emotions seriously. He’s infamous for making mountains out of molehills. Even if you think he’s being dramatic, don’t criticize him. His feelings are a part of his reality.

When he sees that you are taking him seriously, he will become more open. Ironically, it also helps him to settle down and ground himself. He may be near hysterics one moment only to calm down because you didn’t tell him he was overreacting.

He’s moody because he’s sensitive. Everything really does feel like a matter of the sky falling down to a Cancer man. He needs to know you can appreciate his perspective even if you aren’t swayed by his dramatic moods.

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Don’t Downplay Emotions

Never downplay what a Cancer man is going through. This is a common mistake. It’s easy to see him vacillate from one emotion to the next at the drop of a hat.

Yet just because you know he’ll feel better in ten minutes, doesn’t mean it’s a good idea to remind him of that. Try to frame things in a hopeful and positive way.

At the same time, in the moment, validate his feelings as if his current concerns are really a serious matter. Never minimize his feelings and whatever you do, don’t tell him something is no big deal.

It’s a big deal to him or he wouldn’t be talking about it. Though it seems like a lot of work, the good news is when a Cancer man knows you will be there for him when it comes to little things, he’ll trust you with more serious things.