10 Tips for When a Virgo Man is Ignoring You

You may be wondering what it means when a Virgo man acts uninterested in you. When a Virgo man suddenly becomes distant, it may not be for the reasons you assume.

A Virgo man who is hurt may ignore you. He could be busy. The distance could be a sign of a Virgo man falling in love, not knowing what to think of the situation.

But how do you know if a Virgo man is pushing you away? If he’s acting uninterested or avoiding your calls or texts, even missing regular dates or routine check ins, it could be a red flag.

1. Give Him Some Time to Sort Out His Feelings

If a Virgo man is suddenly not texting you back, give him time. If he’s contacting you less than usual, something could have come up that is interfering with his usual routines to stay in touch.

You may assume that keeping in touch with someone you care about is a priority. It is to a Virgo man, but so are his routines. When one part of his routine is thrown off a domino effect ensues.

He may feel out of sorts for a few days. Let him gain his bearings. If you still don’t hear back, send a short, friendly purposeful text. Don’t just say “Hello.” That conveys no real purpose and is an ignorable text for a Virgo man.

Instead have a purpose but keep it light and short. If it has been some time and he has not texted you at all, try to think back to your last interaction. Was there anything that could have possibly been misconstrued by him?

Was there a disagreement? Was he trying to give advice? He may perceive you weren’t taking his guidance seriously. If so he could be offended. Was there drama? Another red flag that he may be getting turned off by the relationship.

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2. Keep Your Cool, No Matter What

Even if it takes him time to respond, keep calm. When a Virgo man comes back into the picture after a hiatus, its normal for you to have questions for him. Save the interrogation. Don’t corner him to find out where he’s been.

He may resurface and act like nothing happened. This is very common. If this is the case, it could be that his absence was no big deal and just him needing breathing room. This is a good sign.

But it could also be an indicator that he doesn’t always communicate his needs assertively. At some point you can talk to him about being a little more open when he needs time to himself. But don’t pressure him for guarantees that he will call every day from that point on.

A Virgo man in love will try to avoid hurting your feelings, but he may genuinely not understand why his absence felt like rejection to you. He’s used to being busy, independent and a bit detached.

It may surprise him that you noticed his absence for a few days or a week. If you wonder how to make a Virgo man miss you, know this is a difficult task. He’s usually too efficient to grieve over your absence.

That’s why he can easily go a few days without communication, even if he loves you. He won’t feel the tug of heartstrings as frequently and intensely as you do.

3. Resist the Urge to Chase Him

You may have heard of men testing their love interests. How does a Virgo man test you? He doesn’t, consciously. He’s much to busy for that. But subconsciously he’s always seeking imperfections to correct.

He may analyze every aspect of your relationship and decide something doesn’t fit perfectly. A Virgo man not texting as much or at all for a few days isn’t intended as a test per se. However, he will take note of your response.

Even though he didn’t intend to test you, if you create drama, over-react, demand an explanation or blow up his phone, he’ll question and second guess the relationship.

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4. Offer to Help Him with a Project

Whether he’s quiet because he’s busy or because of some offense he’s perceived, you can break the ice. Be practical, show an interest in him and also respect his time and needs. Offer to be of help to him.

He loves to work on projects and has a million things on his to-do list. Offer to be helpful with something you know is important to him. Does he need help fixing his car? Painting his basement?

A Virgo man is attracted to humility. Rather than making a big scene about how long it’s been and how you want to make amends, just offer up your attention, time and expertise. This can go a long way to helping him reconnect.

A good way to initiate this conversation is to share some kind of useful, practical information with him. Show him you’re trying to help make his life easier.

5. Use Social Media to Show What You’re Up to

A Virgo man, when hurt, still ultimately cares for you. He may distance himself but he’ll still watch your social media. This can be a good way to engage him and catch his interest.

Whatever you do, don’t use social media to make him jealous. This is not the way to get his attention. He’ll notice, but won’t give you the reaction you were looking for. This is a big deal breaker for him.

He may just keep his observations and feelings to himself, or he may reach out to have the final word. Either way, posting pictures of yourself with other guys or hinting at interests in other guys on social media is a mistake.

He’ll see the manipulation for what it is. Also, he will see this as drama and he doesn’t like drama.

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6. Show Him You Respect His Time and Space

If you find yourself asking “Why is my Virgo man suddenly ignoring me?” there is a good chance he has felt overwhelmed by you recently. He may still love you.

But a Virgo man is efficient if he is nothing else. If he feels too much of his time, energy and space are being consumed by one person, he’ll retreat. This doesn’t mean the relationship is over.

It means he needs to reclaim his priorities and focus on details in his life outside the relationship. Don’t take this personally but do learn a lesson from the experience. Keep communication brief for a while.

Respect his schedule and don’t try to spend every free moment together. Keep yourself busy and let him know you also have other things on your plate.

7. Don’t Try to Get Him to Make Small Talk

What happens when you ignore a Virgo man? Honestly, there’s a chance he may not notice at first. What he will notice is if you break an expected, routine date or obligation.

Don’t do this, it will be highly offensive to him. He loves order, control and predictability.

Rather than trying to ignore him back, it’s better to reign in your attention a little bit. You can start by keeping communication minimal for a few days, a week, however long it takes for him to pick up the slack.

During this time, center your messages around important, direct and clear communication that is simple. Don’t send him paragraphs of text or leave five minute voicemails.

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8. Don’t ask How He’s Feeling

It sounds counterintuitive but as much as you want to know what a Virgo man is feeling when he goes quiet, it’s important not to ask directly. Instead ask about what’s on his mind.

His intellect is safer territory than his emotions. He’s not threatened by expressing his thoughts, plans and opinions. He does feel intimidated when asked to share deeper emotions.

Time for emotion centered conversation will come, but it has to come later. First the goal is to re-establish routine, regular communication.

9. Keep Yourself Busy at First

Whether you did anything to precipitate his silence or not, accept that the ball is in his court. Keep yourself busy while you wait for him to come around.

Don’t fill your waking hours with strategies to try to get a reaction out of him. He’ll feel the weight of this and see it as demanding his attention.

Instead, focus on what needs to be done in your life. This is not only great for you personally but is also a great way to attract his attention. The more you are working to better yourself, the more interested he becomes.

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10. When It’s Time to Check in, Keep it Brief and Practical

When you do check in with him after a period of silence, or when you’re resuming communication, keep it practical. Send him a message thanking him for sharing a recipe and showing that the meal was a success.

Follow up to tell him how things went after taking his advice. He loves this. It shows you take him seriously enough to listen to his guidance and follow through.

Drop him a line to share useful, pertinent information that requires an action and a response. Briefly mention that you would really appreciate his help accomplishing a task but be careful to not put pressure on him to respond right away.

Don’t just check in with vague statements like “Thinking of you” or silly photos or videos. You may think you’re going to make him smile, but you may just confuse, or annoy him.