9 Signs a Cancer Man is Playing You

If your Cancer man is playing you, he’ll be incredibly closed off. He won’t spend time with you unless he needs something from you, and he won’t prioritize you the way he should.

Usually, Cancer men are excellent partners. They will be supportive, compassionate, and affectionate. If one is playing you, he won’t be like that at all.

Your Cancer man won’t make an effort to make you happy or keep you in his life. He will be uncharacteristically selfish, and he won’t make time for you at all. He’ll be unreliable and insensitive.

1. He’s Closed Off

One of the ways to know a Cancer man is lying about his feelings for you is to pay attention to how open he is with you.

A Cancer man might be a bit guarded at the beginning of a relationship. He’ll want to open up to you, though! He will try to share his feelings with you and listen to your feelings in return.

If he’s playing you, your Cancer man will be entirely closed off. He won’t talk about his feelings with you and may ignore you when you try to talk about your feelings.

A Cancer man sending mixed signals at the beginning of a relationship is also common. He might have difficulty fully opening up, but he’ll be open sometimes. If he’s not trying, he’s likely just playing you.

Your Cancer man should not be entirely closed off from you emotionally if he claims to care about you. He should try to open up. If he won’t, he might be playing you.

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2. He Won’t Meet Your Family

If a Cancer man is not interested in you or if he’s playing you, he won’t meet your family. Even if you two have been seeing one another for a while, he won’t introduce you to his family, either.

This is one of a Cancer man’s red flags. Family is incredibly important to Cancer men. If you want him to meet your family and he cares about you, he will!

If your Cancer man refuses to meet your family, something is going on. He will let you know if he’s legitimately nervous or thinks it’s too soon. If he just blows you off and won’t give a reason, your Cancer man might be using you.

Your Cancer man might be playing you if you notice that he’s mysteriously busy whenever you try to bring him to a family wedding or invite him to your parent’s house for dinner.

3. You Don’t Know His Friends

One of the signs a Cancer man is seeing someone else secretly is that you’ve never met anyone else in his life. If you don’t know his friends, or if he won’t let you come over when his roommates are home, he might be playing you.

Like his family, a Cancer man’s friends are important to him. Some of them are like family! If he cares about a partner, he’ll want his friends to know them.

If your Cancer man wants you in his life, he will introduce you to his friends. He’ll bring you to his place when his roommates are home so you can get to know them better.

It’s a red flag if you’ve never met anyone in your Cancer man’s life. That’s a sign that he doesn’t see a future with you. He doesn’t want to integrate you into his social circle because he doesn’t plan on keeping you around for long.

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4. He’s Not Affectionate

If a Cancer man has lost interest in you, he’ll stop being affectionate. If he was never affectionate, even after being together for a while, your Cancer man might be playing games with you.

Some Cancer men are more affectionate than others, and some take a while to fully open up, but they are affectionate!

Your Cancer man might be playing you if he refuses to hold your hand in public or if he stands far apart from you when you two are at events together.

If your Cancer man is unaffectionate for another reason, he’ll likely tell you why. He will discuss things with you if you address the issue. A Cancer man playing you might ignore your concerns or brush you aside, though.

When a Cancer man loves you, he’ll want to show you that! If he refuses to hug you or show other forms of affection, especially if he’s affectionate with other people, he might be playing you.

5. You’re Not In His Future

How does a Cancer man test you? One of the things he’ll do is start talking about the future with you. If he never discusses the future, even the near future, your Cancer man might be playing you.

Cancer men love to plan things. If a Cancer man loves you, he might start talking about things he wants to do with you in the future. A Cancer man who is playing you will never do this.

It will be evident that you’re not in your Cancer man’s future. He might avoid discussing future holiday parties at work because he doesn’t plan to bring you. You’ll be absent from any hypothetical future plans he talks about.

Your Cancer man likely won’t make plans with you too far out, either. He won’t give a straight answer if you ask him what he’s doing for New Year’s Eve or another holiday.

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6. He Won’t Spend Time Together

One of the signs a Cancer man has lost interest in you is that he’ll stop spending as much time with you. Even if he’s free, he’ll avoid spending time with you.

Quality time is one of the main ways a Cancer man shows love. When he cares about someone, he wants to spend as much time with them as possible!

Your Cancer man will be busy sometimes, but he’ll spend time with you if he cares about you. He’ll ensure he always has a spot in his schedule for you.

If a Cancer man is playing you, you might notice that he only spends time with you when he wants something from you. He won’t come over to hang out or call you just to chat.

Your Cancer man might cancel plans with you all the time or just not show up. He may only spend time with you when he has nothing better to do instead of spending time with you because he genuinely wants to.

7. He’s Unreliable

If a Cancer man is always busy suddenly when you need him, he might be playing you. A Cancer man who cares about someone will usually be incredibly reliable and supportive.

Usually, Cancer men are trustworthy. They’ll follow through if they say they’ll do something for you! If they make plans with someone, they will show up on time and stick to those plans.

If your Cancer man constantly cancels plans, breaks promises, or is just generally unreliable, he might be playing you.

For the most part, your Cancer man should be reliable. He’ll make mistakes sometimes, but he’ll make it up to you. If he’s consistently unreliable, he might not care about you.

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8. He’s Insensitive

Most of the time, when a Cancer man disrespects you or makes an insensitive comment, it’s not on purpose. He will feel terrible for hurting you and will correct his behavior.

If your Cancer man is constantly insensitive and doesn’t seem to care about your feelings, he might be playing you.

Cancer men are usually some of the most sensitive people. They care about the feelings of others and would never purposely hurt someone they care about.

If your Cancer man constantly hurts your feelings and doesn’t seem to care, he’s playing you. If he’s rude or constantly insults you, he’s definitely playing you! He would care about your feelings and try to be kind if he wanted to be with you.

9. He Doesn’t Prioritize You

Cancer men usually prioritize their partners. They prioritize most of the people in their lives before themselves!

There will be times when your Cancer man needs to prioritize work, family, friends, or himself. Most of the time, though, he will make an effort to prioritize you if he cares about you.

If a Cancer man is playing you, he’ll never prioritize you. He will make absolutely no effort to put you first, even when he really should.

Your Cancer man might show how little he prioritizes you and your needs by forgetting important dates. For example, he might miss your birthday because he’s hanging out with a friend.

When he’s playing you, a Cancer man will not try to compromise with you or take care of your needs. He’ll always put himself or other people first. Even if you try to point this out, he won’t change his behavior.