10 Signs a Scorpio Man is Using You

It’s hard to know when to give up on a Scorpio man. A Scorpio man who isn’t using you will take a while to open up to you and the relationship may go at a slow pace.

If he’s downright rude and dismissive of you, though, that’s a sign you need to move on.

1. Won’t Meet Your Friends

Scorpio men aren’t typically that shy. In fact, they can be quite social. If your Scorpio man is usually a social person and he refuses to hang out with your friends, that’s a red flag.

Before you assume the worst, though, ask him why he’s always turning down your invitations to go places with your friends.

If he doesn’t like a particular friend of yours, he’ll be honest about it. If he’s just genuinely been busy the last few times you asked, he’ll try to figure out a time to go meet your friends.

If he thinks you’re moving too fast or he is just shy, he’ll tell you that too. Sometimes there is a legitimate reason for not meeting your friends yet.

When he doesn’t want to meet your friends (or your family), that’s a sign he doesn’t intend to stick around. He doesn’t want to embed himself in your life. He doesn’t care about knowing the people you love.

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2. Won’t Introduce You to His Friends

If you really want to figure out how to know if a Scorpio man is using you, pay attention to whether or not he takes you to meet his friends.

If you two just started seeing one another, don’t get too worried about this. He wants to get to know you and he wants to be sure he’s going to stay in a relationship with you before he starts introducing you to other people.

If you’ve been seeing one another for a long time and he refuses to let you meet his friends, he might not be that serious about you.

It won’t always be a grand affair but if he never takes you to hang out with his friends, that’s a red flag.

He doesn’t want them to know about you for some reason if he never brings you around to parties or other hangouts with his friends.

3. Won’t Open Up

If your relationship is new, don’t take this one as a red flag just yet. Scorpio men take a while to open up to people. He’s slow to trust and you’ll need to go at his pace when it comes to that.

After a few months of dating, though, he should at least be making an effort to open up to you more.

Try talking to him if you’re worried about this one. There might be a legitimate reason behind why he’s being so cagey and closed-off.

If he gets overly defensive or just refuses to discuss the matter with you, though, it’s because he doesn’t intend on opening up to you for some reason.

Relationships are built on trust. If he can’t trust you and refuses to even try, he’s not taking your relationship seriously.

When a Scorpio man lies to you, that is a definite sign he’s using you. He tries to be honest with the people he cares about.

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4. Blows You Off

In general, Scorpio men are fairly reliable. If he makes plans with you, he’s going to show up. If he says he’ll do something for you, he’s going to do it.

If he has to reschedule for some reason, he’ll be upfront and let you know as soon as possible. Occasionally canceling plans or changing them isn’t a sign he’s using you. People just get busy.

If he’s constantly canceling on you or just not showing up, that’s a bad sign, though.

When he doesn’t respect your time and ditches you because something “better” came up, that’s showing he doesn’t care about you.

If a Scorpio man acts interested then disappears without an explanation, that might be a sign he was just using you for something.

You don’t need to put up with this. Confront him about it. If there is some legitimate reason for his behavior, he’ll let you know.

5. Leaves You on Read

Scorpio men are good about replying to their texts. He usually likes having text conversations and doesn’t leave people on read very often.

If you’ve got read receipts on and you notice that he’s constantly reading your messages and not replying, that might be a bad sign.

People get busy, of course. He might read your message and then get distracted by something. He might be looking something up to answer a question you asked.

If he rarely replies to messages he’s read, though, that’s a sign he doesn’t want to talk to you for some reason.

He might not be using you but there is something wrong. Scorpio men often give people the silent treatment when they’re upset with them. You might need to do some digging to figure out why he’s ignoring you.

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6. Hot & Cold

When a Scorpio man wants something from you, he might be overly nice to try and “butter you up”. Flattery is one of the ways he manipulates people into doing what he wants.

Once he gets what he wants, he might back off. His affection will go away. He’ll stop complimenting you and being nice.

If he’s constantly chatting you up and then suddenly goes silent after you do him a favor, that’s also a sign he might be using you. When you no longer have something he wants, he’ll ghost you.

when a Scorpio man goes quiet, that doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong or that he’s using you. Sometimes, he just needs space. This is especially true if he’s upset.

7. All About Sex

This is one of the more obvious signs a Scorpio man is playing you.

If he only ever wants to have sex and never wants to go on dates or be emotionally intimate, then he’s just using you for sex. There’s no doubt about that.

If he’s only using you for sex, it should be fairly obvious. He’ll ignore you when you try to talk about your feelings. He won’t respond if you tell him you love him.

He’ll also cancel dates if you’ve made it obvious you don’t want to have sex. He’ll leave early and won’t hang around if you turn him down.

Sometimes a Scorpio man doesn’t want a relationship and that’s okay. If he’s clear with you about that then he’s not using you. You two just want different things and need to clear that up.

If he says he wants a relationship but is only ever around for sex, though, that’s a sign he doesn’t care about your feelings at all.

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8. Doesn’t Ask About You

Normally, Scorpio men are interested in getting to know other people. A Scorpio man might even listen to a stranger sit there and talk about themselves. He just likes knowing things about the people around him.

If he never asks you questions about yourself, that’s a sign he’s not interested in getting to know you.

If he never inquires about how you’re doing, that might be a sign he doesn’t care too. Scorpio men will often text their loved ones to check-in. If they seem upset, he’ll ask them how they’re doing.

If he never does any of that, he’s brushing you off. He’s not interested in you as a person for some reason.

9. Doesn’t Listen to You

Scorpio men are usually good listeners. They care about what their loved ones have to say. If a friend is having a problem and needs to vent, he’ll gladly listen.

If he ignores you constantly, that’s a sign something is wrong. If he doesn’t normally ignore you, he might just be upset for some reason.

If he always ignores you, though, he might legitimately not care about what you have to say.

If you want to play a Scorpio man at his own game, ignore him. There are few things he hates more than when he’s talking and people aren’t paying attention to him.

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10. Not Affectionate

Scorpio men are physically affectionate with their loved ones. He usually likes to hold hands and cuddle with his partner. He enjoys being close to them whenever possible.

This is one of the signs that a Scorpio man has lost interest.

If he was previously highly affectionate with you and suddenly becomes cold for a long period of time, he’s no longer interested. He may have an ulterior motive for keeping you around.