10 Signs an Aquarius Man is Using You

Aquarius men aren’t often selfish. They are altruistic and care about the needs of the people around them. If he’s always behaving selfishly, that’s a sign he might not care about you.

If an Aquarius man is distant and unresponsive, he might be using you. He might also just be busy! Don’t assume the worst after a few missed texts. These behaviors need to be constant. Look for additional signs as well.

If he’s rude, uncompromising, and keeps you completely separate from other people in his life, those are other signs he’s using you.

1. Won’t Make Time For You

When an Aquarius man is done with you, he’s going to stop making time for you. Even if he previously spent a lot of his time hanging out with you, he’ll stop if he loses interest.

Aquarius men will always be willing to make time for the people they care about. He won’t spend every waking moment with you but he will make sure he’s able to hang out with you sometimes.

If he never makes plans with you, he’s likely using you. If you notice that he only ever calls if he wants to have sex, that’s all he wants from you.

If he is constantly canceling plans at the last minute or lying about how busy he is, that is another sign he’s using you. He will make an effort to at least talk to you when he cares, even if he is legitimately busy.

Aquarius men are independent people. He also like has a circle of friends he needs to spend time with. If he’s not spending all his time with you, that doesn’t mean he’s using you. That just means he has other things to do.

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2. He’s Unresponsive

If an Aquarius man is testing you, he might not respond to a few texts. He also is just legitimately slow to respond sometimes. That’s not a sign by itself that he’s using you.

An Aquarius man who never responds to you, not even about serious things, might be using you. Even if he’s slow, he’s usually good about responding eventually.

If he’s unresponsive in person, then it’s much more likely he’s not interested in you.

If you notice that he ignores you when you talk, there is definitely something going on. He is usually good about listening to his friends and partners.

If an Aquarius man is unhappy in a relationship, he’s likely to show that by being less attentive to his partner’s needs. You’ll notice that he never fully responds even when you try to talk about something serious.

3. Distances Himself

If an Aquarius man is losing interest in you, he’s going to start distancing himself from you. He might remain in the relationship for his own reasons but he’s not going to keep you close.

If you two were very close previously and he suddenly withdraws, there might be something wrong.

If he never makes an effort to get closer to you, he’s likely not interested in a relationship. He may just want a fling or he might be keeping you around for another reason.

Some Aquarius men are just naturally emotionally distant. If your relationship is new, he might just need some time to warm up to you. Don’t assume the worst just based on this one sign.

This isn’t always a sign an Aquarius man is using you. Look for other signs in addition to this one. Sometimes when an Aquarius man pulls away, it’s for another reason.

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4. You Don’t Know His Friends

This is one of the more obvious signs an Aquarius man is using you. If you’ve never met his friends, he’s not interested in having a relationship with you.

Aquarius men will keep flings and short-term partners separate from their friend circles. He doesn’t see the point in introducing somebody to his friends if they aren’t going to be around for long.

If he never talks to you about his friends, he’s not interested in you romantically. He doesn’t want a relationship.

He won’t want to get to know your friends either if he’s using you. Again, he’s not going to see the point in meeting them. He won’t be around long enough to make it worth the effort of getting to know them.

5. Doesn’t Talk About Family

An Aquarius man’s family is often important to him, be it his chosen family or the one he was born into.

If he never mentions his family to you, that’s a red flag.

Even when he has a strained relationship with his family, he’ll still talk about them to his partner. He’ll want to open up to the people he cares about, even if it’s difficult.

If you know that he’s close with his family and he never tells you about them, that’s because he’s not interested in integrating you into his life.

He likely won’t be interested in hearing about your family either. If he’s using you, he’s not keeping you around to listen to the latest family gossip. He won’t care enough to get to know your family.

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6. He’s Inconsiderate

An Aquarius man ghosting you isn’t unheard of, even if he does like you. He does generally try to be reliable when it comes to showing up to dates, though, even if he isn’t always on time.

Aquarius men try to be considerate when it comes to the feelings of people they care about. He may not always notice when they’re upset unless they tell him but he does care about the feelings of his loved ones.

If you tell him he’s done something to upset you and he blows you off, he’s just using you. He doesn’t care about your feelings.

If you talk to him about an upsetting behavior of his and he continues to do it, that’s a sign he doesn’t care about you. Aquarius men are usually more than willing to try and improve themselves and treat people better when asked to.

Nobody is perfect, of course. There are going to be times where even the most loving Aquarius man accidentally hurts your feelings. Pay attention to how he reacts when confronted about his behavior.

If he cares about you, he’ll be apologetic. He’ll try to do better in the future.

7. He’s Rude to You

An Aquarius man might be outright rude to you if he’s using you.

If you’re just a fling, he might not care about your feelings. Not all Aquarius men are terrible to people they are in casual relationships with but being completely rude to you is a sure sign he doesn’t see the relationship going anywhere.

Again, nobody is perfect. He might accidentally be rude sometimes if he’s in a bad mood. He may also just not realize he’s being rude.

When he’s rude, call him out on it. If he apologizes and tries to make it up to you, he cares. If he blows you off and continues the behavior, he doesn’t care.

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8. He Never Listens

If he doesn’t listen to you, he’s showing you that he doesn’t care about what you have to say.

Normally, he would be interested in listening to his partner. He likes having conversations. He likes hearing other people’s opinions on things.

If he won’t listen to you, even when you’re talking about something serious, he probably doesn’t like having you around.

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9. He Never Compromises

Aquarius men know that relationships require compromise. He may not always want to give up his freedom but he will be willing to compromise when he cares about somebody.

If he won’t compromise, even in minor things, he’s not actually interested in a deep relationship with you.

When an Aquarius man doesn’t like you anymore, he might start being more rigid about things he’d normally compromise on.

He will be unwilling to adjust his schedule to make time for you. He may not even be willing to compromise on things like where to have dinner or what movie to see.

You’ll definitely see his stubborn side if he’s just using you.

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10. Selfish in Bed

If an Aquarius man just wants to hook up with you, it’ll be very obvious based on the way he treats you in bed.

He is a generous, considerate lover when he loves someone. When he’s in a long-term relationship, he will dedicate the time it takes to make sure his partner is having a good time in bed.

If he doesn’t care about you, though, he might act selfishly in bed.

He won’t be cruel or entirely leave you hanging but he won’t show the same care he would for somebody he loves.