Best Ways to Communicate with a Virgo Man

The key to speaking with a Virgo man you’ve just met is to avoid emotional topics. Virgos aren’t that in touch with their emotions. You’ll push him away if you dive right into talking about your feelings.

He’s not afraid of having deep conversations; just choose the topics carefully.

Intellectual discussions are his favorite, and he’ll talk your ear off if he’s interested in something. Sharing things he’s knowledgeable about is one of the ways he connects with people.

The most important thing is to make sure you’re being truthful. He’ll know if you aren’t.

Calm

The key to knowing how to communicate with a Virgo man is learning how to keep your demeanor calm. Virgo likes talking with people who are laid back. If he senses you’re nervous, he likely won’t enjoy talking with you.

If you are naturally a chill, down to Earth person, this will be a piece of cake. Talking with you will be a breeze for Virgo, and he’ll want to talk to you even more.

He doesn’t want to feel like talking to you is a chore or like he has to try to talk to you. When things come naturally for both of you, you’ll both enjoy the conversation much more.

He doesn’t think that the loudest person in the room or the person speaking the most is the one to listen to. He’s more likely to speak with the quiet person in the group.

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Light Conversation

If you are just getting to know a Virgo man, keep the conversation light. Don’t get too personal too soon, or you’ll scare him off.

Talking to a Virgo man is easier when you avoid serious topics or deep discussions about feelings. Instead, just have some fun with him!

Steering away from emotional topics will show him that you can respect his boundaries and won’t push him to talk about things he’s not comfortable with.

This is important for building trust if you want to have a relationship with him.

This isn’t to say that you can’t have deep, meaningful conversations ever. Just avoid personal subjects or things that are too emotional. A deep, intellectual conversation is the way to go.

Once the two of you become close friends or get into a romantic relationship, you can start working up to those intense emotional discussions. He still won’t like to have them frequently, though.

Intellectual

Knowing what to talk about with a Virgo can be difficult sometimes. Intellectual topics are typically a safe bet with any Virgo man, though.

As mentioned, Virgo is alright with having deep, intense discussions if they are intellectual rather than emotional.

Virgo’s communication style shows off his intelligence. He’s more than happy to share his observations and thoughts with you. Of course, he’ll love to hear what you think as well.

If you can keep up with him and have an interesting, intelligent discussion about a variety of topics, he’ll want to speak with you more.

What if you aren’t knowledgeable about a particular subject? Don’t worry. Ask him to explain it to you and tell you what he thinks. He’ll love that you’re willing to listen.

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Focused

Virgo men like to talk a lot, but they aren’t all over the place like a Gemini might be. Instead, they are more focused in their conversations.

If the two of you are talking about a specific topic, try to stay on that topic until he’s ready to talk about something else. You don’t want to cut him off or go on a tangent when he’s still got more to say.

Don’t bring something up and then completely drop it to talk about something else. He’ll likely be so focused on figuring out how something was relevant to the conversation that he misses the rest of what you say.

Don’t leave any loose ends when telling a story either. Irrelevant details should be kept to a minimum, so he’s not left wondering why what someone was wearing was essential to the story, for example.

Analytical

A Virgo man’s communication style is definitely more on the analytical side. This is a person who analyzes every little detail around him.

This makes him great at jobs that require a high level of attention to detail. He notices things others might not. He’s likely excellent at problem-solving.

This can also cause some of Virgo’s communication problems. For example, it’s possible that, while you are speaking, he’s analyzing and overanalyzing every word you say and gesture you make.

He isn’t going to take what you say at face value. So the best way to avoid him coming to the wrong conclusion is to be very deliberate with your word choice and monitor your body language.

If you tell him you like what he’s wearing, but you seem anxious, even if it’s for another reason, he might think you’re lying. So be sure of what you’re saying when you say it to him.

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Facts Are Facts

Virgos are intelligent people and can be disconnected from their emotions at times.

If you are saying something as a fact, make sure you’ve actually done your research and know that it’s correct.

If he knows it’s not correct, he’ll call you out on it. But, if he finds out later you were mistaken, he might not trust what you say in the future.

Understand that your opinions on things aren’t always facts as well. He tries to use facts when he makes decisions, not feelings.

Honesty

More often than not, if a Virgo man stops communicating with you, it might be because he thinks you’ve been dishonest in some way.

When speaking with a Virgo man, try to be as honest and genuine as possible. After all, he’s always honest with you, sometimes to a fault.

That analytical nature of his means he will sense if something is off with what you say. So unless you’re really good at lying, don’t even bother.

If you don’t want to answer a question honestly, just tell him you don’t want to answer the question. If you’d rather keep something a secret, tell him that.

He’s not always right when he thinks you’re lying, of course. You may be telling the entire truth, but something about your demeanor throws up a red flag.

This is something the two of you will have to work on together.

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Criticizing

Virgos love to criticize everything and everyone around them, but they hate being criticized. This is important when knowing how to talk to a Virgo.

He is likely to make judgmental statements about his friends, coworkers, neighbors, family, etc.

For example, if you tell him about a fight you have with your roommate, he’s just as likely to criticize what you did as what your roommate did.

Ironically, he cannot handle it when others criticize him. So if he’s done something to upset you, don’t speak to him in an accusatory manner or focus on what he did. Instead, focus on your feelings and how two can fix the problem.

If his critical comments bother you, let him know gently. He might not stop entirely, but if he cares about you, he’ll at least try to keep some of his thoughts to himself.

Connect

Emotions might not always be part of Virgo’s communication with you, but that doesn’t mean he won’t want to connect with you.

Find some things that you both like and talk about them! If he enjoys art and you paint, show him your work (as long as you’re okay with some critique, of course).

Learn what his interests are and if you share any of them, let him know that. Don’t pretend to like everything he likes, of course.

It is just easier to talk to someone, especially when just meeting them, if you have some point of connection.

He wants to feel like you care about what he’s saying as well. So if you want to get closer with him eventually, make sure he feels comfortable sharing things with you.

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Short & Sweet

This applies to a Virgo man’s texting habits more than anything else.

If the two of you aren’t able to meet up in person often, you will, of course, be more likely to have longer conversations via text. If you meet up often, though, keep things to the point in your texts.

This will make scheduling much easier. Too much back and forth or unrelated conversation makes planning meetups extremely difficult.

All you need to do is ask, “Are you free Tuesday at 6:00 for dinner?” and wait for a yes or no. After that, it’s okay to forgo small talk and get straight to the point.

This will make your in-person meetings better. You’ll have more to talk about if you didn’t already tell him everything about your week over text.