Why is Scorpio Man Slow to Commit to a Relationship?

When you see signs a Scorpio man has feelings for you, you may feel like things are about to heat up. You’ll still need to be patient.

When you see signs a Scorpio man is playing you, it may be an indication he’s not ready for a relationship yet. Scorpio men need time to commit.

A Scorpio man’s commitment issues can be part of his pattern of sabotaging relationships. He uses sabotage as an exit strategy to avoid being vulnerable.

He Feels Insecure

If you see signs a Scorpio man is using you, he may be insecure. In spite of their tough guy image, Scorpio men are deeply sensitive. They need to maintain the upper hand in relationships to feel secure.

This is one of the reasons a Scorpio man will hold off on making a commitment. It can be a power play for a Scorpio man to know he can leave at any time while you are pining for him.

Scorpio men see commitment as an agreement to be as open, transparent and vulnerable as you are. This is a major milestone for a Scorpio man to make and one he does not take lightly.

If you’re wondering how to get a Scorpio man to commit, the key is to be patient. He won’t be able to hold out for long. When a Scorpio man is really in love, his possessive and intense nature will lead him to make a commitment eventually.

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He’s Secretly Paranoid

What a Scorpio man wants to hear is that you are completely committed to him and have no other love interests. Scorpio men have a jealous side and are secretly paranoid. He questions your loyalty and may second guess your intentions.

He will be slow to commit because he wants to make sure you are devoted for life. He won’t show vulnerability or take the same kind of risk to open up to you unless he is sure the path is secure. He is not as strong as he tries to act.

He needs to be reassured that you are completely devoted. If you take someone else’s side in an argument, a Scorpio man will take it as a personal insult. He will become convinced you are betraying him.

He’ll try hard to act like nothing bothers him. Yet the truth is, everything gets under his skin. He just waits and watches, choosing the right moment to explode or take revenge. He’s strategic and sly.

Scorpio men will feed into their own insecurities. Sometimes they build up their worst possible fears, convincing themselves that they shouldn’t trust you or that there is a conspiracy against them.

Scorpio men will become so entrenched in these fears and paranoid fantasies that he’ll sometimes concoct elaborate tests to try to trap you. He’ll try to set the stage to get you to reveal your secret love for someone else, for example.

The problem is, most of his fears are unfounded or misdirected. He may have cheated in the past and now suspects everyone else of cheating. He may have been abandoned in the past and now looks for signs of betrayal, even when everything is fine.

If things are going well in a Scorpio man’s life, give him time and he’ll undermine his own foundation. He can’t rest until he digs for all the deeply buried secrets. If there are no deep dark secrets to uncover, he’ll make something up and believe it.

He Doesn’t Trust Easily

When a Scorpio man wants you, he has a difficult time stepping up to the plate. Obviously, trust is an issue for him. Scorpio men will look for any reason to justify their suspicious nature.

They don’t realize they create a vicious cycle. They act cold and aloof, and then feel justified if you move on because you assumed they weren’t interested.

This makes him more likely to be suspicious and jealous and further feeds into his trust issues. It takes a long time and a lot of effort to get a Scorpio man to open up and make a commitment.

He doesn’t want to be exposed and needs to feel in control. He will gradually learn to trust you over time but two things must happen first. One, you have to prove yourself to him and not take the bait when he tests you.

The second criteria is completely up to him. He has to find the security and comfort with taking a risk. He will have to make the choice himself, even if you are the perfect partner.

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He Sabotages Relationships

When a Scorpio man touches you, it can feel like you’ve found your soul mate. You may both feel a deep, otherworldly connection. This can make you feel convinced that he’s the one for you.

You may see yourselves settling down and living happily ever after, a Scorpio man will suddenly sabotage the relationship. He will suddenly vanish. This can make you feel like your entire world is shattered.

Your Scorpio man knows this. He doesn’t intend to hurt you, this is part of the reason he holds out on committing. He knows that he has a pattern of sabotaging. He has to work hard to reconcile two warring parts of his personality.

He has two conflicting parts of his personality that both craves intimacy and also fears it. He has to try to fight through a battle between these two sides of himself and this isn’t easy.

It takes time for a Scorpio man to decide if he is going to let himself enjoy the peace and stability of a close relationship, or if he’s going to defect to his need for security and control by sabotaging it.

He’s Not Over His Ex

Though understanding a Scorpio man in love is helpful, you don’t have to be an expert on Scorpio traits in order to understand one of the most basic reasons he may be slow to commit.

Sometimes it’s straightforward. Scorpio men, like other men, can be slow to commit if he’s really not over his ex yet. Unlike other men, though, a Scorpio man can fool himself into thinking he’s over a relationship when he’s really not.

He will think he’s over his ex because he managed to become infatuated with you. But after some time dating, he’ll become more aware that something doesn’t feel right. When he digs down deep, he’ll realize what it is.

But now he has a problem. He’s falling for you, you’re falling for him but he’s not a clean slate yet. His emotions are entangled with his past and he’s trying to start something new with you. What’s a Scorpio guy to do?

Slam on the brakes. He’ll slow down and act aloof. He’ll suddenly rethink the pace of the relationship. He’ll stall the commitment. This is because he’s realized he just isn’t ready yet. Give him time, he’ll turn things around.

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He’s Doesn’t Think You’re Stable

By now it may be clear that Scorpio guys have some issues, so it may seem unfair for him to judge. Yet a Scorpio man will observe you carefully. If he thinks you aren’t emotionally stable and mature, he’ll drag his feet.

If he doesn’t think you’re stable enough, he will slow down. He’s not afraid to protect himself by going on the defensive, but he usually tries to avoid inviting drama.

If you give him reason to believe that you’re not as solid and mature as he is, he will hold back to see if his observations are correct. He doesn’t want to be with someone who will become demanding.

He also doesn’t want someone else’s jealousy to lead them to try to emotionally suffocate him. This seems ironic because he has a strong jealous instinct himself. This can lead into the final reason.

He Fears Losing Freedom

Scorpio men are independent. They want to be closely connected in an intimate relationship, but only if they can continue to be in control. A Scorpio man wants to call all the shots. He wants to hold on to his secrets.

He doesn’t want to be accountable to anyone. He feels the need to preserve his autonomy and freedom, even in a long term relationship. He may hold off on commitment at first to test you and see if you will give him the space he needs.

If you show him that you can handle giving him breathing room, he will start to commit. He needs to see that you won’t bombard him with questions about where he’s going or who he is talking to. If you can stay calm, he will feel more at ease.

The more you can prove to a Scorpio man that you are no threat to his security or independence, the more likely he will be to settle down and open up to you on a deeper level. He needs to feel like he can still come and go as he pleases.