Are Pisces Men Submissive in a Relationship?

Sleeping with a Pisces man too soon isn’t always going to doom the relationship to failure. Pisces men love to be in love and will often do whatever they can to keep the peace.

A Pisces man will never rock the boat in a relationship. This can lead him to be submissive but over time he can also become resentful. He will usually defer to your authority.

A Pisces man isn’t comfortable with power. He acts submissive and passive rather than trying to put his foot down in relationships.

He’s the Most Submissive

If you’re wondering how to keep a Pisces man wanting you, you’ve got to keep his attention and let him know you validate his emotions. Pisces are the most submissive men you’ll ever meet. You’ve got to balance validating him and eliciting his ideas.

He won’t often assert himself at all in a relationship. A Pisces man will try to hide his true desires and will obscure his intentions. Instead, he’ll communicate with you as if conveying his feelings through abstract art.

He may give an ambivalent statement and let you come to your own conclusion about what you thought he meant. This way, he has an easy out. He can wait to see what meaning you give to his words and then will agree with you no matter what.

This way, a Pisces man never has to worry that he’s said something that hurts your feelings. He also wants to make sure you don’t disagree with him because this will cause him deep insecurities and fear.

A Pisces man will try to deliberately be as obscure and vague as possible because that way he makes no commitment to any preference or ambitions. He’ll make the relationship all about you. But it’s a mistake to think this is because he doesn’t have an opinion.

He does actually have desires and opinions, but he keeps them to himself. It’s important to try to encourage a Pisces man to speak about these deeper feelings even when he pretends that all he wants is for you to be happy.

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He’s Shy

What does a Pisces man look for in a woman? He looks for a partner who is going to understand his shy and sensitive nature. He also needs a partner who will be more decisive than he is. If you leave things to a Pisces man, he’ll stall.

He isn’t the most confident guy and on top of that, his shy and passive nature can make it very difficult for him to take the reins in the relationship even when it is in his best interest to do this. He’ll hide in the background instead.

A Pisces man will let you do the heavy lifting. He may even prefer it if you were the spokesperson for the relationship. He is painfully shy and often retreats into his own little world. You may have to get used to gently coaxing him out of hiding.

It takes patience to make a relationship with a Pisces man work because he shuts down and retreats into fantasy and illusion at the drop of a hat. This is in part because he is so shy and submissive.

What does a Pisces man find attractive? He is compassionate, gentle and nurturing and finds it attractive when his partner embodies these traits as well. A Pisces man can become hurt easily and needs to feel like you understand him and will stick up for him.

A Pisces man who is in love will take some risks to show his feelings, but a shy Pisces man can just as easily remain in the background for months or years, admiring you from a distance. He has a rich fantasy life.

He may never even work up the nerve to tell a woman that he cares about her and instead will simply daydream that they are having a relationship when this is actually not the case. This is one of the ways he will adapt rather than assert himself.

He’s Passive

Pisces man turn ons range from the spiritual to the kinky. If you really want to know about his deeper desires and fantasies though, you’ve got to work to get inside his mind. He’s so passive, he will keep his fantasies secret.

A Pisces man can keep silent about his desires in a relationship because he doesn’t want to be criticized or rejected. He’s so sensitive that even an innocent question about his interests can lead to deeply hurt feelings if he misconstrues your intentions.

Pisces men often don’t speak up for themselves and this can cause many problems in a relationship. Pisces men in love try so hard to keep the peace that they silence themselves or heavily censor themselves. A Pisces man’s passive nature can make it easy to get along with him.

It is no wonder so many women find Pisces men so attractive. He is likely to have many admirers. In spite of this, a Pisces man may struggle to actually stay in or get into a relationship. He never wants to make the first move because he’s so submissive.

Yet the women he’s often attracted to are traditional, demure, sensitive and compassionate. Also, women who are inclined to wait for a man to court them in a traditional way. This poses a problem as Pisces men can wait indefinitely for a love interest who is also shy.

Pisces men can be so passive, they will let love come and go before they work up the nerve to let their love interest know how they feel. Ideally, if a Pisces man is attracted to a woman who matches his personality but is also more assertive, then she will make the first move.

This is necessary as Pisces men need to have a clear “green light” to let them know when a woman is interested. Once they have the clear message that they can proceed, a Pisces man will still remain relatively passive in relationships.

A Pisces man’s partner may often complain that she has to make all of the decisions or do all of the work in the relationship. This is not entirely fair but there is truth to this concern. Pisces men do a different kind of work in relationships.

They do the work of emotional connection, healing and validation. But they don’t like to make major decisions. Where to go on dates, vacations or even more serious decisions such as where to live may be choices that Pisces men leave up to their partner.

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He’s a Chameleon

A Pisces man in a casual relationship may still defer to your authority. He’s submissive and doesn’t want to push back against your wishes or desires. He will instead change his preferences and priorities to fit in with what you want.

This makes a Pisces man similar to a chameleon. He may completely transform his physical appearance as well as his entire personality every time he’s in a relationship with someone new. He’s so impressionable, his friends may watch him go through many different changes.

While a partner may influence someone’s tastes or introduce them to new things, when it comes to a Pisces man’s style in relationships, he is likely to change everything about his personality to please a partner.

He may, for example, convert to a new religion to fit in with his partner or impress a love interest. He’s not just playing along, either. He will completely jump in and become a devoted follower in order to please his partner.

He may also put friends and family relationships on the backburner and completely become obsessed with his love interest. He may become obsessed with trying to embody what he thinks his partner wants.

He’s a People-Pleaser

What attracts a Pisces man is a woman who will nurture and empathize with him. He’s a people pleaser and loves to make you happy. He’ll prioritize your wishes over his own. When a Pisces man is done with you, you’ll know.

A Pisces man who is no longer interested in you will not bother to try to accommodate you. When he stops caring about your feelings, it’s a red flag. A Pisces man who has had enough will become cold, detached and move on.

When he likes you, though, he will make every move all about pleasing you. You’ll feel like the center of his world, which is quite flattering. Yet this can be toxic to a relationship if it continues for too long.

How does a Pisces man test you? He drops hints. A Pisces man won’t overtly test you. He will leave subtle cues about his feelings and wait to see if you pick up on his discreet messages. If you do, he’ll open his heart to you.

He’ll put even more energy into pleasing you than he will put into pursuing his own goals. A Pisces man will want to make sure you are always happy because he’s secretly insecure about losing you.

Often, friends with benefits with a Pisces man will result in a Pisces guy secretly hoping you’ll fall in love with him if he meets all of your needs. You have to be clear about your boundaries and expectations.