Why is Aries Man Slow to Commit to a Relationship?

It’s never easy to feel out of step with your peers as they move from dating to engagement and beyond. Meanwhile, having met your ideal man, there’s no hint of anything more.

How can your romance move up a gear when the Aries man you adore is happy idling in park? This is the puzzle to be solved before you can go forward.

Before you look for signs an Aries man is falling for you, do your homework. Look at the reasons why Aries men may struggle to commit, then use that information to work on him.

Independent

A burning need to feel free is one of the main reasons Aries men can be commitment-shy. However, this is not a reason to worry your Aries lover doesn’t care, even if it feels that way.

Your Aries man is happy to have found you, but the future is unfamiliar territory. Ideally, he wants to park your relationship in neutral and cruise with his taxi light off. This illusion of freedom provides breathing space for a commitment to develop naturally.

Relationships that supply an illusion of independence work well because you can’t rush things. This benefits you both, as making your time together fun and exciting helps avoid boredom on both sides.

The Aries man is driven by a need for adventure, discovery, and exploration, and his gung-ho impulsiveness feeds that. Eventually, this does burn out, and once made, those commitments are essential and therefore long-lasting.

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Avoiding Responsibility

Aries men are always bursting with lots of ideas, plans, and dreams. Their thirst for life is admirable, and an Aries man is rarely short of the confidence needed to make these things happen.

This is all good to hear unless you are the patient girlfriend left on the sidelines. The significant other cannot feel confident about the future because the Aries man she is dating actively avoids personal responsibility.

It’s not all bad news, though. An Aries man taking it slow isn’t about him rejecting the idea of settling down, buying a home, and having children. He just isn’t in any hurry.

Accept that what turns an Aries man off faster than anything is uninvited responsibility, which he avoids like the plague. As he matures, that will change; meanwhile, your best option is to relax and enjoy the madness.

Long Wish-List

The almost out-of-control zest for life that makes the Aries man so charismatic generates a frenzy of fans and excitement. This guarantees a plentiful supply of potential love interests, but he isn’t willing to commit to just anyone.

Aries men are not all players, but these sociable, chatty, friendly, open, and funny guys with an Aries sun sign are natural people magnets. The truth is that beyond very casual relationships, Mr. Aries has his eyes on a specific prize.

Unwilling to settle for anything less than a woman who ticks all his boxes, the Aries man knows what he likes and is willing to wait for it. So what can you expect to see on his dream wish list?

What makes Aries men want to marry is the appearance of his dream girl. Ideally she will be self-confident, genuine, clever, and up for adventure, as well as patient, tolerant, and independent enough to want some personal space from her fiery lover.

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Craves New Experiences

We can learn a lot about the Aries man by studying his sun sign symbol – the ram. Like sheep grazing in the wild, the Aries man is destined to be impulsive and skittish.

Aries men can seem content but then suddenly take off for pastures new. This is partly down to the excitement and challenges Aries is always looking to find. Aries men are better at short-term devotion, needing a logical reason to commit in the longer term.

If relationships were compared to food, the Aries man would live out of buffet restaurants. It’s not that he wants to overeat, but the idea of so much choice almost guarantees he won’t get bored.

Although Aries men take their time to commit to a relationship, you can relax once they get there. Taking that leap means he can completely trust you and rely on you to trust him back in return.

Under-Values Relationships

Most people’s lives follow a pretty standard pattern; education, dating, commitment, with a job in the background and maybe a year out in the mix too. However, Aries men seem to be wired a little differently.

Aries men put a lot of emphasis on achievement, but they favor material and social success over flooring personal goals. This approach is standard, and unfortunately, it means his romantic connections are often left to simmer rather than boil.

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Confidence

When an Aries man goes silent on you it could be down to priorities. We know Aries men are super-confident with women; and that they love the attention women shower on them.

What is not so obvious is that when it comes to work Aries men may not be so sure about themselves and their abilities. Image is everything, as is being successful, and an Aries man couldn’t bear to fail.

Aries men may be dreamers and rule breakers by nature, but they can conjure up some serious focus when it’s necessary. Say when they’re not holding a top spot in the office pecking-order and their confidence wavers.

To deal with this, Aries men automatically switch their attention to career-building tactics and strategies. Inevitably, their love life, which isn’t very demanding, comes way down on the ‘to do list.

Single-minded

A significant feature of an Aries man’s personality is his drive to succeed. He has dreams, visions even, and he thinks big. Such a go-getting attitude brings success because Aries men will never quit until they achieve their goal.

It’s not so different with an Aries man and relationships. Potential love interests will know he’s interested, and when the time’s right, he’ll pursue it. You just can’t pinpoint exactly when that might be.

Aries men love to be around women, but when other things claim their time, something has to give. Short, intense, but casual liaisons are more his thing when focused on work, though he doesn’t ever give up on love.

Once an Aries man can devote all his attention to finding the perfect match for himself, he’ll do just that. Sometimes being slow to commit is about timings, not feelings.

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Too Much Pressure

Some folk are followers; others are leaders. Some are conformists, others rebels. A few make the rules, and Aries men like to swerve them. Being extremely adventurous, independent, and ambitious means Aries men often fail to do what is expected.

An Aries man will happily have relationships, but he may struggle to be conventional about it. It would be pointless to expect an Aries man to be a sheep; after all, he is wired to be the leader of a flock.

Aries men and casual relationships are a good match, but Aries men can sometimes unknowingly mislead those around them. This often happens when his full-on approach to life suggests a more serious connection than he intended.

The best plan of action here is to simply enjoy your connection and let the potential for more sit on ice for a while. Of course, if that doesn’t suit you, there’s no shame in opting out altogether.

Immaturity

As the first and the youngest sun sign, even a mature Aries man has a childish streak of defiance. He loves nothing more than joking around or hanging with friends because peer approval is something he needs, respects, and values.

While this approach to life may suit Mr. Aries, it can be challenging for the girls caught in the crossfire. For them it’s either move on or sit it out, and of course, both are manageable options.

Aries men have huge egos and a solid streak of self-preservation. As they mature, you’ll probably find they naturally create more space in their lives for commitment. Until then concerns about an Aries man not communicating are unavoidable.

If you have the patience, it’s all about playing the long game with an Aries man. As he ages and finds his way in life, he’ll figure out the benefits of cementing a relationship commitment.

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Boredom

As young children, girls are usually introduced to the whole “princess culture.” From fairytales to big-screen films, there’s no escaping the messages being shared. Women grow up looking for their own Prince Charming with his grand gestures and romantic nature.

Imagine if Cinderella had got to the ball, had one dance, then been left sitting on the sidelines? And all because her precious prince got bored and craved some fresh female adoration. At this point a typical Aries man disappears.

One crucial positive point here is that Aries men are not just players because they can be. They may play the field due to boredom, but the Aries man will be marching fearlessly on that road to commitment once they do fall.

Aries men are intense, brooding, and pretty much every other romance novel, hero stereotype. They love meeting new people but have close to zero tolerance for routine, so they do like to keep those options open until they are ready to commit.