Libra Man Hot & Cold

Your Libra man might act hot and cold because he’s dating around and unable to focus all his attention on you. He may also have too much going on, even if he’s not seeing anyone else.

Libra men sometimes overthink, which may be why he’s acting hot and cold. He could be scared of his feelings or unsure of your feelings.

It’s also possible your Libra man is losing interest but doesn’t want to hurt you. He’ll still be friendly but pull away in other ways. He won’t always go cold completely.

He’s Indecisive

A Libra man’s mixed signals are often due to his indecisiveness. Libra men are notoriously indecisive about matters big and small, so it makes sense that they cannot decide what they want from someone.

Your Libra man might be unsure whether he wants friendship from you or romance. He may be attracted to you but unable to decide if he wants something casual or serious.

Your Libra man will likely act hot and cold until he figures out what he wants. If he’s on the fence, he might be flirtatious and affectionate some days and cold on others.

If you think your Libra man is indecisive, be patient. You can try to help him decide by showing him you’re his ideal partner, but it might still take a while for him to figure out what he wants.

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He Might Be Dating Around

Why are Libra men hot and cold? Some Libra men date multiple people at once. Others are serial monogamists, but it’s likely that your Libra man isn’t just dating you unless he’s said you two are exclusive.

In the early stages of dating a Libra man, he won’t be committed to you. He won’t see any problem with seeing other people and may assume you are, too.

His hot and cold behavior will make sense because his time will be split. If he’s dating multiple people, he won’t be able to meet up with you as often. He’ll have to focus on the other people he’s dating sometimes instead of only focusing on you.

If you think your Libra man is acting hot and cold because he’s dating around, talk to him. You two must decide together that you want to see each other exclusively. Don’t just assume that’s what he wants.

He’s Overthinking the Situation

A Libra man’s mood swings might indicate that he’s overthinking the situation. Libra men get anxious and insecure sometimes, especially when they genuinely like someone and are worried they might not feel the same way.

Your Libra man might be reading too much into your behavior and pull away because of that. He might flirt with you and message you frequently but go cold because you don’t respond to him consistently.

Even if you’re genuinely busy and interested in chatting with him, a Libra man might assume your silence means you’re rejecting his advances. He’ll pull away and go cold instead of checking in with you because he’s overthinking.

If you think your Libra man is going cold due to anxiety and overthinking, try to reassure him. Check-in with him and remind him of your affection for him. That will get him to warm back up.

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He’s Scared of His Feelings

Sometimes, a Libra man is inconsistent because he fears his own feelings. If he’s afraid of being hurt or worried about settling down, he’ll be hot and cold with you while he figures things out.

Some Libra men are happy to jump into a relationship because they love to be in love. That ends in disaster for them all too frequently, though. If a Libra man feels like he’s developing feelings too quickly again, that might scare him.

A Libra man might act hot and cold because he’s wary of moving too quickly. His strong feelings might make him anxious, especially if he thinks your feelings for him aren’t as intense.

If you think your Libra man is afraid of his feelings, be patient and go at a slow pace with him. Show him that you feel the same way he does, and give him some grace when he goes cold.

He’s Losing Interest

If your Libra man is not interested in you any longer, he might not outright reject you or tell you immediately. Libra men are conflict-avoidant people-pleasers. They want to make people like them.

A Libra man might be interested in you, only to lose interest later. He’ll be warm and affectionate when he’s still interested but pull away slightly as he loses interest.

He may warm back up again, though. He might still be friendly toward you but go cold if you flirt with him and show romantic interest. He may genuinely want to be friends, but he’ll pull away if you want more than that.

Your Libra man’s behavior will seem confusing. He won’t always go cold completely when he loses interest, especially if he still wants to maintain a good relationship with you.

If you think your Libra man is over you, pull away and stop making romantic advances. If he’s uninterested, that will likely make him feel relieved.

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He’s Unsure of Your Feelings

Your Libra man may act hot and cold if he’s confused about his feelings, but he’ll also act this way if he’s unsure of your feelings.

A Libra man might flirt with you, then pull back because you don’t respond how he wants. He might be confused about your reaction to his flirting or even misread your signals.

He may get the courage to flirt with you again and continue flirting because you seem to respond well but then pull back again if you give him reason to believe you’re not interested.

It can be challenging to figure out what to do when a Libra man pulls away. If he’s unsure of your feelings, the best thing to do is reassure him and make your interest in him clear. The issue is that he won’t tell you he’s unsure of your feelings.

He’s Got Too Much Going on

Is a Libra man hard to get? He can be, but he’s not always trying to be that way. Your Libra man may have too much going on and cannot always focus on you.

A people-pleasing Libra man might be doing multiple tasks for friends and loved ones. He may have a heavy workload because he doesn’t know how to say no to his boss or coworkers.

Your Libra man may have an active social life or a lot of hobbies to keep up with. If he has more than one job, or he’s also going through school, he may just be too busy to always spend time with you.

If this is the case, your Libra man should hopefully let you know his schedule. However, he might not always think to check in when he’s doing so much.

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Be Affectionate Toward Him

If you think your Libra man is hiding his feelings, try to be more affectionate toward him. He may just need you to show a little more interest so that he feels secure in your relationship.

When your Libra man goes cold, try reaching out and offering affection or support. Don’t be pushy or send multiple messages, but do remind him that you care about him. That might get him to warm back up.

Your affection will make your Libra man feel better. If he’s busy or overwhelmed, a hug can calm him down and get him to open up. If he’s uncertain of your feelings, some affection will show him that you care about him, and he’ll warm up.

Talk to Him About Your Feelings

If your Libra man is acting distant, try opening up. Talk to him about your feelings. He might not realize how his behavior is affecting you.

Don’t act accusatory or lash out at your Libra man, though. Open up to him and let him know that his cold behavior hurts your feelings, but do so calmly and patiently.

If your Libra man loves you, he’ll listen to you. He might not realize how his behavior makes you feel, and he’ll try to do better in the future so that he doesn’t continue to hurt you.

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Don’t Take His Behavior Personally

If your Libra man is acting hot and cold, try not to take his behavior too personally. His behavior likely isn’t a reflection of your worth. It may not have anything to do with you sometimes.

Your Libra man will act hot and cold sometimes, no matter what you do. Even if you show clear interest and are the “perfect” potential partner for him, his insecurities and indecisiveness will get in the way.

Libra men self-sabotage sometimes. If your Libra man is doing this, he will act hot and cold with anyone who tries to get close to him. He won’t be able to have a relationship with anyone until he sorts himself out.

If your Libra man’s behavior is bothering you, focus on yourself. Spend time with friends and practice some self-care. Don’t let him get to you.