10 Ways to Hurt a Gemini Man

When a Gemini man is done with you, chances are he no longer finds the relationship mentally stimulating. He doesn’t easily get hurt emotionally.

Yet if you really want to hurt a Gemini man, there are a few ways you can do this. Most of the tactics center around betraying him based on information he’s given you.

If you insult his intelligence or harm his social standing, you’ll hurt a Gemini man. Most other types of insults don’t have the same impact.

1. Tell His Secrets

Gemini emotional problems don’t usually trigger heartbreak or hurt feelings. This is because he’ll either hide his emotions so you never really know what he’s feeling, or he’ll disconnect from his emotions so you can’t weaponize them.

Gemini men are savvy and they go to great lengths to protect themselves from the possibility of emotional wounds. They will often act as if nothing really bothers them and this way you won’t know what buttons to push.

Yet if you really want to hurt a Gemini man, one of the ways to do this effectively is to tell his secrets. He may not reveal his secrets to you until he’s known you for a while. Just when he thinks he can trust you, he’ll open up to you on a deeper level.

If you break his trust and betray his confidence, you’ll hurt him. He may never reveal this fully but this doesn’t mean you haven’t done significant emotional damage. He may still try to play it off like nothing is wrong but deep inside he’s going to be hurt.

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2. Gossip

Gemini silent treatment is a red flag that something is wrong. When a Gemini guy goes quiet on you, it’s possible his feelings are hurt. One of the ways you can try to hurt him in return is to gossip about him.

Gemini men value their social connections and although they aren’t egotistical, they do value their reputations. This is because to a Gemini man, reputation is important social currency. If you gossip and spread rumors about him or share things that make him look bad, you’ll hurt a Gemini man.

He’ll be hurt that you thought to target him in this way. He’ll be even more hurt because your words have an impact on how other people see him. He’s protective of his reputation and social status. Hurt his status and you’ll hurt him.

3. Waste His Time

It’s hard to say what hurts Gemini the most. This is because he is adaptable enough to roll with any insults or embarrassing issues that come his way. Gemini men have a gift for deflecting. They are also good at making the best of a bad situation.

They can be shameless and so even if you are saying or doing hurtful things, they have a gift for always making themselves look successful regardless of what you try to do to hurt them. One thing that gets under a Gemini guy’s skin, though is feeling like his time is being wasted.

If you let him invest time and attention in you and you don’t follow through or aren’t trustworthy, it can seriously hurt a Gemini guy. He’ll feel like you wasted his time and energy.

This hurts him because Gemini men always fear they are missing out and that the grass is greener somewhere else. When you waste his time, you’re confirming this fear that he was missing out on a better prospect somewhere else.

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4. Insult His Intelligence

Another way to leave a bruise on a Gemini man’s heart is to insult his intelligence. Gemini men pride themselves on their wit and intellectual skills. Usually, they have good reason for this justifiable pride in themselves.

When you insult a Gemini man’s intelligence, you are hitting him where it hurts. A Gemini man may brush it off if he is highly confident in himself, or he may be crushed.

This can depend on how much he values the relationship and how confident he is in the first place. Even a confident Gemini man will be hurt however if he values your opinion and then feels like you don’t appreciate his intelligence.

5. Insult His Writing

On a similar note, if a Gemini man shares his writing with you and your response is to criticize it or insult his work, you’ll hurt his feelings. This is more of an insult to a Gemini man than if you had directly criticized his family or some other personal aspect of his life.

Gemini men are Kings of communication and often pride themselves on their writing skills. If he takes a risk and shares a story he wrote or a love poem, this is as close as a Gemini man may come to opening his heart to you.

If your response is negative and critical, it will feel as if he has poured his heart out to you and you rejected him in return. He may be deeply wounded by this reaction. If you have a legitimate constructive critique to offer, make it clear that this is your intention.

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6. Criticize His Communication

When a Gemini man is mad at you, he may go silent. When a Gemini man ignores you and you tell him that he’s a horrible communicator, even though it is true in that moment, it will still hurt him.

Gemini men see themselves as diplomatic communicators who are great at mediating conflicts. This is usually true unless the conflict they are having is with you directly. Then they may shut down or become passive-aggressive. They are far better at being intermediaries in disputes among friends.

When you insult or criticize a Gemini man for his communication skills, you are striking right at the heart of all that is important to him. One of the biggest complaints women often make about Gemini men is that they don’t communicate well.

Often, what this really means is they don’t communicate about their feelings. It is important to understand that Gemini men don’t usually speak the language of emotions, but they do strive to communicate well in other ways. Insulting their communication abilities will hurt Gemini men.

7. Insult His Friends

If you’re wondering how to tell if a Gemini man is playing you, one of the best things to observe is what topics he talks to you about. If he often initiates conversation to check in with you and see how you are doing, chances are he’s really into you.

If you want to hurt a Gemini man who clearly cares about you, attacking him personally may not hit the mark. Gemini men can be adaptable and aren’t usually emotionally attached to other people’s criticisms of them.

What really hurts him is if you insult or attack his friends. Gemini men tend to value their friends as much if not more than they value their romantic relationships. A Gemini man views his friends as extended family. If you speak badly about his friends, it will hurt him.

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8. Become Demanding

If a Gemini man ignores you, it could be that he’s feeling pressured and smothered in the relationship. If you become too demanding, a Gemini man will start to shut down.

He may act as if he’s angry but the truth is he is just as likely to be hurt by your change in attitude. This is because a Gemini man will feel like he’s hit the jackpot when he meets a woman he gets along with perfectly. His ideal relationship resembles the early phase of dating.

He enjoys knowing there is an attraction but that you both have your own separate lives as well. When a relationship becomes too intense or too demanding, a Gemini man may actually feel hurt and betrayed as a result. He will feel as if you led him to believe the relationship would be fun and suddenly it has become hard work.

9. Betray Him

Another way to hurt a Gemini man is to outright betray him. If you see signs a Gemini man doesn’t like you and you want to get back at him, betraying him can be effective. This can be difficult to do unless you had a close friendship to begin with.

This is because a Gemini man won’t likely be too revealing or vulnerable in the first place. Finding some way to betray him can take creativity and insight into his personality. Sometimes sharing personal information will work, but this is not a guarantee.

If he had feelings for you, one way to betray him is to flirt with his friends or give him mixed signals. Be forewarned, though, if you want to know how to make a Gemini man miss you, this is not the strategy to use. Doing this will ensure that he never trusts you again.

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10. Make Him Jealous

Making a Gemini man jealous is not easy. He is very open minded when it comes to boundaries in relationships. He doesn’t care if you talk to your ex, because he still talks to his exes. He may even be flirty with others as part of his personality.

If you really want to hurt a Gemini man by making him jealous, you have to go to extremes and make it clear to him that he has competition. One way to do this is to praise someone else’s knowledge of trivia in an area that he considers himself an expert.

It may sound odd, but a Gemini man is more likely to become jealous over what another person knows or has as compared to jealous of your relationship with another person. If he collects model trains and you admire someone else’s model train collection, it will make him jealous.

If he is a writer and you admire someone else who has won awards for writing in the same genre, it will likewise trigger his jealousy and hurt his feelings. Remind him he has competition, especially when it comes to intellectual interests.