How to Talk to a Capricorn Man About Feelings

How does a Capricorn man test a woman? He won’t usually play mind games. He’s too practical. Instead, he’ll just wait and observe how you handle different situations.

When you have a need for emotional connection, a Capricorn man will try to focus on problem solving. If you just want to discuss how you feel, he will be confused.

He sees no reason to discuss feelings. To him, they are immaterial and irrelevant. He will become frustrated if you try to steer the conversation toward emotions.

Be Practical

Look for practical signs of a Capricorn man’s feelings. For example, when a Capricorn man kisses you, he’s showing you he loves you. He won’t normally kiss someone just to flirt. He takes affection too seriously and may even be germophobic.

If you want to talk about feelings, emphasize practicality. Tell him about how you can’t focus on your work when you are upset because of unfinished business from an argument. Explain how specific feelings are impacting you in a tangible way.

This gets his attention. It also creates a safer framework for a Capricorn man who is highly threatened by feelings. Emotions are abstract and don’t make sense to him. It’s best to pinpoint the practical fallout, especially related to work or money. This gives him a better understanding of how your feelings help or hurt you in daily life.

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Emphasize Efficiency

When a Capricorn man is done with you, he won’t usually keep stringing you along. Capricorn men are pragmatic, methodical and efficient. When you emphasize efficiency, a Capricorn man will be better able to hear what you are trying to convey.

He doesn’t like to just talk about emotions, but if you can talk about feelings as they relate to being successful, productive or helping you both in some way, it will be easier for a Capricorn man to explore his own feelings through the conversation.

He may be more willing to hear what you are saying, including hearing you talk about your own feelings, if the conversation is not drawn out or dramatic. Speaking about feelings in somewhat neutral tones can make a Capricorn man feel less suffocated.

Keep it Brief

What does it mean when a Capricorn man stares at you? It can be a sign that he is lost in thought or that he is attracted to you. The Body language of a Capricorn man when in love doesn’t vary dramatically from his body language when he’s just a friend.

It can be hard to gauge exactly what is on a Capricorn man’s mind just from observing him. Usually, however, if you come right out and ask him, a Capricorn man will tell you the truth. Even if it hurts, he will be honest with you.

The best way to bring up emotions in a conversation is actually to keep the discussion of emotions brief. Stick to the main point you want him to understand. Resist the urge to wax poetic. Capricorn men don’t understand lofty communication.

It’s best to keep your focus grounded. Be as assertive and direct as he is. Keep the focus on emotions brief so that your Capricorn man doesn’t feel overwhelmed by the conversation. If you stick to an emotional topic at length, he will feel like you are interrogating him.

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Don’t Pressure Him

If you see the signs a Capricorn man is not interested in you, reconsider what you expect from him. Even a Capricorn man in love will seldom talk about his feelings to any great degree. If he’s not interested in you he will have no interest in how you are feeling.

Even at baseline, he is not likely to show much empathy or compassion for emotions. This doesn’t mean he is being cruel. It is simply a matter of his perspective. If you are too eager to talk to him about feelings, he will interpret it as being pressured.

If you put any pressure on a Capricorn man to talk about his feelings, he will appear to turn cold. Why do Capricorns push you away? It isn’t usually personal. When you talk about your feelings, it is overwhelming to him. He shuts down because he can’t easily process emotions.

What does a Capricorn man like in a woman? He is drawn to women who are efficient, practical, and who can focus on tasks more than emotions. If you are emotionally expressive, a Capricorn man won’t always appreciate this. He may feel easily overwhelmed.

Use Parables

If you must talk to a Capricorn man about his feelings, it is better to do so in indirect terms so that it keeps him from feeling pressured. For example, you can use parables and stories to illustrate examples of how you feel in different situations.

If you use parables when you communicate emotions to a Capricorn man, you’ll be better able to get your point across. A Capricorn man will be more receptive to hearing about emotions when he doesn’t feel like he’s the target of your emotions.

By using parables to convey how you are feeling, you take the focus off your Capricorn love interest. He may feel better able to communicate how he feels about a situation if it is discussed in objective, hypothetical terms.

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Take Small Steps

When a Capricorn man respects you, he will remain open minded and engage in longer discussions about emotional topics. It takes time to work up to this level, however. Take baby steps on the way there.

Each time you can get a Capricorn man to entertain a conversation about feelings, however brief, is a big win. For a Capricorn man to talk about feelings means that he is overcoming a significant barrier and letting his guard down.

This is not something that happens all at once but instead is a matter of him building up a certain amount of tolerance for emotional discussions. He has to really get comfortable over time. Don’t get frustrated because this happens in small steps. Instead, see the positive in him taking these steps toward being more expressive.

Be Strategic

Is a Capricorn man slow or not interested? Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference. He is notoriously slow to move in a relationship. But this is also true of his nature in all areas of his life. Cautious and practical, he moves at a snail’s pace.

You have to be strategic so that you can make the most of the short periods of time that a Capricorn man can tolerate emotional discussion. If you are already having a conversation about a sentimental topic, cash in on his focus already being on emotional matters and encourage him to talk about his feelings.

But choose your timing wisely. If he is just getting out of work, has a deadline coming up or is under stress for other reasons related to family, work, money or health, it is not the best time to try to have a conversation about feelings.

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Give Examples

When the timing is right and you want to have a conversation with a Capricorn man about feelings, it is best to start by role modeling. Talk about your feelings and use specific examples to ground your feelings in a framework that is easier for him to understand.

For instance, if you are hurt or upset, don’t just name various feelings and leave the communication there. Give specific examples of what happened to lead to these feelings and also examples of how you experience these feelings. Capricorn men aren’t naturally at ease with emotional language.

When you give several specific examples, including how you perceive various emotions through your physical senses, it gives him clues about how to interpret his own feelings. It helps him to ground his experiences as well. This is helpful in the process of getting a Capricorn man to acknowledge and talk about his feelings.

Show Empathy

When a Capricorn man finally does start to talk about his feelings, don’t show disappointment because his disclosure is minimal and surface level. Instead, show empathy. Do this without making a dramatic display of your own emotions.

Rather, show empathy by reflecting back that you understand how he is feeling. This can be done in subtle ways and at first this is ideal. When a Capricorn man sees that you are relating to how he feels, it can encourage him to share more.

One of the things a Capricorn man fears is that if he starts to dig into his deeper emotions, he’ll be flooded and overcome by feelings. If you show empathy without invoking too much of your own emotion, it will help your Capricorn man to feel like he has an outlet. This diffuses the fear that he’ll be consumed by emotions.