Best Ways to Communicate with a Scorpio Man

The key to communicating with a Scorpio is to understand that he will not open up to you right away. He’s not going to tell you everything about himself on a first, second, or even third date.

This is a secretive man who keeps things to himself until he knows he can trust you. So don’t feel the need to tell him everything about yourself all at once either.

Be honest and genuine in your communication with him. He wants to know he can trust you if the two of you ever become close.

Honesty

Scorpio men will hide their true thoughts and keep secrets, but they also value honesty from others. This may seem hypocritical.

However, they rarely outright lie. Instead, he’ll just leave out specific details or avoid certain topics.

He won’t expect you to spill your entire life story to him but be as truthful as possible with what you do tell him.

Lies by omission are dealt with on a case-by-case basis. He does that so he typically understands when other people do. He might still be hurt if the two of you are close, though.

This primarily applies to when you knowingly lie. If you are mistaken about something you’ve told him, he’ll understand as long as you correct yourself. He won’t fault you for misspeaking or for getting a fact wrong.

A Scorpio man may act like he doesn’t care if he finds out you lied to him, but he does. He’ll take it as a profound betrayal, and it’ll be hard to earn his trust back.

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Feelings

Scorpio is a water sign. Like all water signs, they are deeply in touch with their emotions. Unlike Cancer, however, they don’t always show them or talk about them.

You can undoubtedly get a Scorpio to talk about their feelings, though. You just need to make sure he’s comfortable with you before doing so. If he trusts you, he’ll likely bring up his emotions without needing to be pushed.

If you want to talk about your feelings, go for it! Scorpio men make great listeners. He isn’t likely to tell anyone what you’ve revealed to him, either. He’s good at keeping secrets.

If you need to have a difficult discussion, don’t just say what a Scorpio wants to hear.

He is intuitive, and if you two are close, he’s tuned in to your emotions. So he’ll know you’re keeping something from him and would rather you just tell the truth.

Humor

Scorpios tend to have a dark sense of humor. Indeed, this is a man who can find humor in even the most serious of situations.

He doesn’t shy away from making jokes about sex, religion, or other taboo topics. So if you have a raunchy joke you don’t typically share with people, try it out on him. He’ll probably find it delightful.

His type of humor may also be dry or sarcastic. Not everyone appreciates this type of humor or knows how to utilize it. If you do, though, go for it. He’ll enjoy it even if others don’t.

You might not always know when he’s joking because Scorpios have an excellent poker face. The slight lifting of one side of his mouth might be the only tell he gives that he’s amused.

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Occult Subjects

Want to know how to communicate with a Scorpio you don’t know well? Just bring up a topic related to the occult, and he’ll dive right into the conversation!

Scorpio is often associated with all things mystical, magical, and spooky. This is a man who isn’t afraid to talk about dark or scary topics.

Do you like horror movies? Try asking him which ones he likes. He is likely a fan as well. This is a great topic to use when meeting a Scorpio for the first time.

Ask about his opinions on the supernatural. Even if he doesn’t believe ghosts are real, he may know a lot about them. For example, he might watch ghost hunting shows or just think the topic is interesting overall.

This doesn’t just apply to surface-level “spooky” topics. He’ll go deep with his knowledge about the occult, even if you might find it to be too much.

Connect

One of the signs that a Scorpio has feelings for you is that he’ll try to connect with you on an emotional level.

Scorpio men do not trust easily, and they don’t open up to just anyone. Show him that you are somebody that he can trust, and he’s more likely to talk to you about more sensitive topics.

It’s not that Scorpio men don’t want to form emotional connections with people. They do! They just don’t want to talk about how they feel with the wrong person.

If he is telling you how he feels, listen. Appreciate it for the gift it is. He doesn’t trust easily, and he doesn’t reveal his secrets to everyone he knows.

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Respond Quickly

A Scorpio man’s texting style can be rather intense compared to those of other signs.

This is a man who isn’t afraid to double text. He isn’t scared to triple text or even more, either. If he has something to say or he just wants to get your attention, he’ll just keep messaging you.

He knows that sometimes you’re busy but if you can respond quickly, do so. This is especially true if he asks you a question, is trying to make plans, or messages you about something serious.

This is key in knowing how to text a Scorpio man. He may feel like you’re ignoring him if his texts go unanswered for days at a time.

If you are busy and can’t talk at that moment, send a quick text saying that. He’ll be willing to wait until you can give him your full attention.

Interesting Topics

You don’t need to make small talk with a Scorpio man. For Scorpio, communication involves getting to know somebody, learning new things, and discovering the unknown. So you can just dive right in without discussing the weather.

You want to keep him interested. You want to show him that you are a fascinating person who he can talk to about anything.

Topics others might consider taboo aren’t necessarily off the table for Scorpio. You can talk about sex with him, for example, without making him uncomfortable.

If you are passionate about something, tell him! Even if he has no clue about the subject, your passion will shine through and make the conversation interesting for him.

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Genuine

If a Scorpio man stops communicating with you, it might be because he thinks you’re not being your genuine self around him.

Scorpios are good at reading people. He will sense if you’re uncomfortable, if you’re hiding something, or if you aren’t being entirely truthful with him.

You don’t need to pretend to like everything a Scorpio likes. That will be boring for him, in fact.

If he wants to see an action movie, but you hate them, you don’t have to sit through it for his sake.

Just tell him you don’t like action movies, and you can find something else that you both enjoy. Then, he’ll just go see the action movie by himself or with someone else.

Mystery

Being mysterious is a typical trait for a Scorpio. They also appreciate a good mystery.

He isn’t going to reveal everything about himself all at once. He might make cryptic statements. If you ask a personal question, he may only partially answer it because he’s not ready to reveal the entire truth.

He’ll be more intrigued by you if you also keep some things to yourself. But, of course, he’s not going to tell you everything about himself all at once, so why should you?

Take your time getting to know him. Show him that you are capable of keeping secrets. That’s how he’ll know he can trust you with his own.

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Body Language

Talking to Scorpio man is about much more than just words.

Body language is essential to Scorpio’s communication style. Scorpio is a sensual sign, and everything they do involves multiple senses.

If he’s interested in you, he’ll make intense eye contact and lean in while you’re listening. If you want to show that you’re interested as well, mirror those actions.

Scorpios are great at picking up on body language. So he’ll be able to tell if you’re hiding something, if you’re bored, if you’re into him, etc., based on even the most minute of actions.

If you know what to look for, Scorpio men communicate a lot with their body language. For example, he might not give you a full smile, but a smirk can show that he’s amused or even that he’s flirting with you.

If he’s uncomfortable or disinterested, he may lean back from you or “curl” into himself. Change topics or give him some alone time if that happens.