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How Does an Aries Man Test You?

Updated December 10, 2024

If an Aries man is testing you, it’s usually because he’s considering a relationship with you.

He’s not trying to be sneaky. He just wants to ensure that you two will be a good fit. He’ll test you before committing to anything.

Aries men need independent partners, so he will test how independent and self-reliant you are. He will also test your loyalty and how trustworthy you are. Those are all traits an Aries man needs in a relationship.

An Aries man might compete with you to test you. He may be trying to test how ambitious you are or how dominant you are. He might pick fights, too, to see how you react.

Aries men are looking for someone who is serious about a relationship. He might play hot and cold to see how invested you are in him.

Tests Your Independence

Will an Aries man use you? There are Aries men who will. An Aries man who sometimes asks for time alone probably isn’t using you or sneaking off to do anything illicit. He might just be testing your independence.

Aries men are highly independent people. Your Aries man will enjoy spending time with you, but you won’t be the only priority in his life.

Your Aries man likely has a career that is important to him. He has hobbies and friends he enjoys hanging out with. He will want to do things without you sometimes.

Aries men do not like clingy partners. Your Aries man will typically test your independence by doing things without you and seeing how you react.

If you get upset every time your Aries man goes to a party without you or doesn’t message you for a couple of days, that will be a red flag for him.

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Tests Your Loyalty

Do Aries men test you? Many will in very obvious ways. The tests an Aries man does aren’t exactly sneaky or complicated.

An Aries man might test your loyalty to him by having a friend flirt with you. If one of your Aries man’s best friends suddenly starts hitting on you, it is likely because your Aries man is seeing how you’ll react.

Not all tests of loyalty will be that drastic, though. An Aries man might also just pay attention to how you interact with other men.

Aries men are the jealous type. Your Aries man won’t get mad at you just for talking to other men, but he may see it as a red flag if you frequently flirt with others in front of him.

Tests of Trust

Why do Aries men test you? An Aries man wants to ensure that you’re the right person for him before he gives you his heart.

Trust is essential to an Aries man in a relationship. If he can’t trust his partner, or she can’t trust him, there’s no point in trying to have a relationship in the first place.

How will an Aries man test you to ensure he can trust you? He might start by asking simple favors of you. He’s looking to see if you follow through on what you say you’ll do.

Your Aries man might also start telling you secrets about himself. He wants to make sure that you’re not going to gossip about the things he tells you in confidence.

If you never follow through with your promises or your Aries man is constantly catching you in a lie, you’ve failed this test.

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He Competes With You

Do Aries men play games? An Aries man might compete with you to see if you can keep up with him. He needs a partner who can match his pace in life.

Many Aries men enjoy a little friendly competition. It isn’t a red flag for an Aries man if you lose a competition, but it might be if you refuse to ever compete with him.

Your Aries man might compete with you if you two go to the gym together. He wants to see if you can make a game out of it and have fun with him. He’s not going to care if he ends up winning or not.

He’ll Joke Around

One of the signs an Aries man is testing you is that he’ll tell a variety of different jokes and pay attention to how you react.

Does your Aries man always look your way after telling a joke in a group? Does he ask you what you think about certain comedians or types of humor?

An Aries man wants to be sure that you two have compatible senses of humor. He doesn’t want to have to censor himself if you’re offended by sexual jokes, for example.

If you don’t get any of your Aries man’s jokes or never find them funny, you two might not be compatible.

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He’ll Pick Fights

Some types of Aries man tests can be challenging or annoying. For example, an Aries man might pick a couple of fights with you while he’s testing you.

Aries men can be highly confrontational. Even if you have a great relationship with your Aries man, you two will have a few legitimate arguments throughout your relationship.

Your Aries man might pick a couple of small fights to see how you argue. Do you completely avoid confrontation? Are you passive, or do you fight back?

Picking fights is often the “test” people hate the most from Aries men. Call him out if you think your Aries man is just picking fights to see how you’ll react.

Tell him you don’t appreciate it. He’ll respect you for sticking up for yourself and setting boundaries with him.

Tests Your Memory

How do you know if an Aries man is testing you? He might start telling you things about himself and then seeing if you remember them later.

Many Aries men are not subtle. An Aries man might tell you his favorite color and then explicitly ask you later if you remember what it is. He’s not trying to be sneaky.

One of the ways an Aries man shows he cares is by remembering things you tell him. If you remember little details about him, like his favorite dessert or what movies he likes, he’ll feel like you care about him.

It’s not the end of the world if you forget things now and then. If you never seem to remember anything about your Aries man, that might make him feel like you don’t care about him.

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Tests Your Ambition

How an Aries man tests you depends a lot on his priorities. Some Aries men want partners who are as ambitious as they are. If that’s the case for your Aries man, he’ll test your ambition.

Your Aries man will likely test your ambition in simple ways. He’ll ask what your goals are in life, and he’ll talk to you about your career.

An Aries man is looking to see if you give up on things easily or if you stick with them. If he’s going to commit to a relationship with you, he wants to know that you won’t run at the first sign of trouble.

Aries men often prefer partners who are ambitious, passionate, and driven. Someone who is just floating through life won’t always be interesting enough for an Aries man.

Tests Your Sense of Adventure

Aries, like all fire signs, are often very adventurous. Most Aries men want a partner who will gladly try new things and go new places with them.

An Aries man won’t want to stay home all the time if you two start dating. He won’t want to do the same things all the time. He’ll get bored!

Your Aries man might test your sense of adventure in small ways. He may simply suggest new restaurants to eat at or bars to go to, just to see if you’re fine mixing things up.

An Aries man may also test your sense of adventure in bed. He might ask you about trying certain kinks or bring up new things he wants to try with you.

If you always turn down your Aries man’s ideas for new things to do, that will tell him that you two might not be compatible. Some routine is fine, but he wants excitement too.

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He’ll Play Hot And Cold

Will an Aries man lead you on? Some might. There will be a difference in how he plays hot and cold when he’s testing you vs. when he’s leading you.

An Aries man playing hot and cold might be testing how serious you are about him. Do you reach out when he doesn’t talk to you for a few days? Do you check on him when he seems more withdrawn?

If an Aries man is using you or leading you on, he’ll only play “hot” when he wants something from you. He’ll be cold the rest of the time.

An Aries man who is testing you will likely only withdraw on purpose a couple of times. He won’t do it too often, either. He wants to show interest in you, not push you away.

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  1. My aries man lives 1300 miles away from me. He does run hot and cold and has said he didn’t have much to offer me. I told him I wasn’t asking him to offer me anything. I am very independent, self supporting, & own my own home.However, he is always happy to see me and is always very sweet. tells me I can visit anytime. In the beginning he seemed head over hills for me and even entertained the thought of me moving in with him or him coming to live with me. Now that seems off the table. I can’t figure out why.

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