Moon Square Mars: Desires & Disappointment

What does the Moon square Mars mean? This aspect brings a lot of focus on desires. This might manifest as a person or relationship being highly sexual or as emotional fulfillment coming from success and achievements.

This square also creates a lot of anger, though. It’s easy to express emotions, but those emotions can be turbulent, and they aren’t always expressed healthily.

This isn’t a negative aspect, though. Emotions should be expressed, and desires should be met. There must be some balance, healthy expression, and an ability to calm down and constructively channel feelings.

Natal

The Moon square Mars in a Natal Chart typically indicates that a person has a high emotional attachment to their needs and desires. They gain their fulfillment through reaching their ambitions and getting what they want.

This aspect can lead to a lot of dysfunction, though. A person with this aspect in their chart will struggle with emotional regulation and become overwhelmed and angry when they don’t get what they want.

If you’ve got the Moon square Mars in your chart, you probably have a lot of ambitions. You are likely a passionate person with strong desires. You might be expressive and dramatic at times.

This can be a challenging aspect, but it is also exciting. If you’ve got this in your chart, you are probably magnetic and attractive to others. You likely have a strong sex appeal, and others will be drawn to you until they see your more explosive side.

This aspect often brings a mean temper, which is tied directly to unmet desires. If you’ve got this aspect in your chart, you probably can’t handle disappointment or being told no.

When the expression of this aspect is at its worst, someone might explode in anger when they feel like they aren’t getting what they want. They will be short-tempered and unable to regulate their emotions.

This aspect is not all bad, though. People who express it more positively will be expressive, determined, and creative. They will be passionate lovers and might enjoy acting or other performing arts.

If you’ve got this aspect, you can calm it down through physical activity or creative expression. Stop and take a breath if you experience disappointment, and channel that anger into a healthy outlet instead of exploding.

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Transit

The Moon square Mars in a transit typically brings a lot of passion and need to get everything you desire.

If you usually don’t ask for what you need, you’ll have an easier time doing that during this time. You likely won’t do so in a kind or healthy way, though.

A Moon-Mars square during a transit will also bring anger. You’ll go after your desires and passionately stand up for yourself and the things you believe in, but you’ll also have a shorter temper.

This is especially true if Mars is transiting your natal Moon. If you typically are a calmer person or you push down your emotions, that will all go out the window during this time. All those repressed feelings will come to the surface.

If the Moon transits your natal Mars, you may react more emotionally when you don’t get what you want. Even if you usually handle disappointment well, you won’t during this time.

You’ll become angry if you go after something and can’t get it. You’ll be more irritated than usual when people tell you no or you can’t reach your goals.

Impulsivity and defensiveness are common during this transit as well. You will likely not think before reacting to your disappointment. If someone calls you out on your behavior, you will probably double down and defend yourself instead of apologizing.

The best way to work through this transit is not to push your emotions down but to learn how to express your feelings healthily. Your anger might be justified, and your disappointment is understandable. That doesn’t mean you need to lash out, though.

Talk to a trusted friend to work through your feelings, go to therapy, or take up a physical activity to work off some of that anger. Do your best not to hurt anyone else’s feelings because you will regret that once this transit passes.

Synastry

The Moon square Mars in synastry can create a confusing and conflicting dynamic between one partner’s emotional needs and the other’s sexual needs.

This relationship likely has some unresolved issues, even though both partners genuinely care about one another. They may fight a lot, but those fights won’t be about the actual issue at the heart of their relationship.

The Mars partner in this relationship might compete with the Moon partner or compete for the Moon partner. They may feel like they must compete with the Moon partner’s friends or exes, even if they don’t.

The Moon partner will likely be sensitive to the Mars partner’s moods, but they will become moody when the Mars partner is irritated. The Moon partner may start fights based on perceived slights that don’t exist.

Both partners in this relationship feel strongly attracted to one another and want to be together. They don’t always know how to meet one another’s sexual and emotional needs or how to ask for their own to be met.

The Moon square Mars cons include frequent arguments and difficulty communicating without becoming combative. Even if this couple genuinely cares about each other, they have some issues to work through.

This can be a challenging relationship, but this couple can work through those challenges and come out on top. They can learn to find emotional and sexual fulfillment together and will satisfy each other’s needs.

The Moon square Mars pros are the passion this couple feels for one another and their potential for growth. They often argue because they care about each other. Some of the conflicts in their relationship can also help them become better people.

Getting to the heart of their issues is the goal of this square. This couple needs to learn to talk about what is wrong instead of picking at one another about minor things.

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Composite

The Moon square Mars in a Composite Chart can indicate that a relationship is frustrating and motivating.

This couple has the potential to encourage one another. They could find emotional fulfillment in their relationship by achieving their goals and gaining what they mutually desire.

However, this couple sometimes misses the mark when trying to motivate each other. They might compete with each other in a way that is meant to be friendly, but that winds up being aggressive and dysfunctional.

One partner might say something they think is encouraging, only to irritate or upset the other partner. Each partner’s attempts to motivate the other can be overwhelming or seem controlling.

The main issue in this relationship is that neither partner is as nurturing as they need to be. They genuinely want to be supportive, but their attempts at support are harsh, nagging, and intimidating instead of kind and motivating.

This couple can benefit from talking about their feelings more. They likely know each other’s goals and ambitions but don’t always have intense emotional discussions. They both put on a brave face instead.

Both people in this couple must learn to encourage and motivate without becoming demanding or controlling. They should learn to mind their tone and to back off if the other partner legitimately seems overwhelmed.

They must also learn to offer emotional support, especially when one partner is stressed out. They don’t always need to push each other. Sometimes, it’s better to be affectionate and listen to the other’s troubles.

Once they each take a step back and learn how to be softer with one another, these two will motivate one another more. They’ll feel less stressed and know they can rely on each other even when they fail.

Solar Return

The Moon square Mars during a solar return could come with frustration or motivation, and you never really know which you’ll get.

This might be a year where you want to go after your desires and reach your goals. You may feel like you’re being pushed to make some changes. You might feel more passionate and have a desire to make things better for yourself.

Many emotions will come to light during the year following this solar return. If you’ve been shoving down feelings of anger or frustration, you won’t be able to ignore them anymore. This is especially true if this anger comes from disappointment over not reaching your goals.

This could be a highly productive year for you, though. Sometimes, your frustrations can motivate you to get what you want finally. You can reach your goals if you don’t let your anger control you and express it healthily.

You can’t let failures and disappointments hold you back, either. Don’t lash out when something doesn’t go your way. Instead, use physical activity or creativity to channel your anger, and then move on and keep working for what you want.

The upcoming year may have some highs and lows. Your passion and desire to succeed doesn’t necessarily mean you will succeed. You have to learn how to find emotional fulfillment from the process instead of only from success.