Mercury square the Ascendant can create communication challenges because of a tendency to seem arrogant to others.
This aspect can make it challenging to listen to others. It can also distort communication styles and the expression of the inner self.
What does Mercury square the Ascendant mean? This aspect creates tension between Mercury’s reason and perception and the Ascendant’s image and identity.
Individuals may not make the best first impressions because of how they communicate with others. They might seem overly opinionated, critical, or nosy. They may also talk far more than they listen. Couples will struggle to communicate and show one another compassion effectively.
Sometimes, the arrogance this square can create is just a front. It covers up insecurities. Learning to be grounded and kind, yet still authentic, is key to resolving this square’s tension.
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Natal
Mercury square the Ascendant in a chart can bring out the critical side of Mercury. This is often turned inward but will also come out when speaking to others as a way of overcompensating for insecurities and trying to cover them up.
People with this aspect in their charts often have trouble listening to others. Sometimes, they are so preoccupied with themselves that they don’t pay attention or give much thought to what the people around them are saying.
If Mercury is square the Ascendant in your Natal Chart, you may not have a healthy relationship with yourself. Your inner voice is critical and harsh. Even if you don’t mean to, you will likely speak to others that way, too.
You might seem arrogant to others. You may have an assertive nature that others can respect, but you are just as likely to have nervous energy when interacting. That arrogance is often a poor attempt to cover up anxiety.
You will sometimes feel like others don’t appreciate your intellect. You might not feel valued, but that can cause you to turn around and devalue others. If someone doesn’t give you the validation you seek, you must learn to be okay with that and not treat others poorly.
How you communicate likely does not align with your inner self. You may want to interact better with those around you, but first, you must connect to yourself and overcome your inner critic.
When you speak to yourself more compassionately, doing the same with others will be easy. When you are no longer worried about hiding insecurities, you can lose that false image of arrogance and learn to listen just as much as you speak.
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Transit
Mercury square the Ascendant during a transit increases the chances of making bad first impressions on others. You may feel like nothing you say comes out right during this time.
If Mercury transits your natal Ascendant, others may not find you as intelligent as you find yourself. This is likely because something is blocking you from properly conveying your thoughts and not because you are unintelligent.
If the Ascendant transits your natal Mercury, you might be distracted by insecurities or resentment, causing you to interact with others in ways you typically wouldn’t. How you communicate may not accurately reflect who you are.
The Mercury-Ascendant square calls for some self-reflection. If others frequently misunderstand you, examine your communication style instead of assuming everyone else is the problem.
You might discover that your attempts to come across as intelligent instead seem pretentious or critical of others. Your excitement over a topic may cause you to speak over others or speak in a jumbled, unclear way.
This transit is a good time to connect to your inner self and reflect on insecurities. Do you try to present yourself in a certain way because you fear rejection? Are you overcompensating for something and pushing others away with your behavior?
It is a good time to seek outside advice, too. Sometimes, you are incapable of seeing yourself as others do. You may be genuinely unaware of how you come across when interacting, especially with new people.
This square is not a sign you need to change yourself completely. It is a sign that you must hone in on and resolve communication issues. It calls you to be more authentic and not to become someone you are not.
Synastry
Mercury square the Ascendant in synastry creates tension between one partner’s communication style and the other’s self-expression. These two typically have a tough time understanding one another.
The Mercury partner might communicate in a way that makes the Ascendant partner feel criticized. Even if they are not trying to be rude or make the Ascendant partner feel bad, their words can be hurtful.
The Ascendant partner may express themselves in a way that the Mercury partner finds inauthentic. These two may have frequent misunderstandings, no matter how hard they try to open up and express their thoughts and feelings.
Each partner’s perception of the other is off. These two might see the worst in each other and read too much into what each of them says, leading to hurt feelings and an inability to connect.
This aspect can make it difficult for a couple to get to know each other. They both may feel they can’t be themselves and open up. These are some of the Mercury square the Ascendant cons.
Typically, each partner needs to be more patient with the other. They also need to actively try to see the best in each other instead of assuming the worst.
When these two can shift their perspectives, they can connect and overcome negative mindsets, which are some of the Mercury square the Ascendant pros.
If the Ascendant partner is offended or hurt by something the Mercury partner says, they should stop and think before reacting. They should not assume the Mercury partner is trying to upset them and should talk through the miscommunication.
The Mercury partner should do the same if they don’t like how the Ascendant partner expresses themselves. Both partners need to make an active effort to work through their issues instead of thinking of each other in a negative light.
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Composite
Mercury square the Ascendant in a Composite Chart creates intense challenges related to communication in a relationship. These two might feel they can’t open up and fully express themselves around one another.
Sometimes, these two have very different outlooks on life or ways of expressing themselves. This can lead them to perceive the same situation in dramatically different ways.
The differences between these two can easily lead to misunderstandings. One partner may hear something the other says and interpret it in a way it wasn’t intended to come across.
These two may have frequent disagreements, leading to further frustration. They will both feel like the other doesn’t understand them, and one may start to believe the other doesn’t even want to.
Instead of seeing their differences as obstacles, they should learn to embrace their different perspectives. Sometimes, they can offer unique insights to one another they would miss otherwise.
Each partner can learn much about effective communication if they are willing to listen to the other. They don’t have to have all the same opinions or communicate in the same way to understand one another. It just takes some time to gain that understanding.
When both partners listen to one another and hear what each of them is actually saying, they can interact in much more positive ways. They can stop misinterpreting each other’s words and have beneficial dialogue, even if they disagree.
This relationship can create learning opportunities for both partners. They can form a connection that allows them to open up and fully express themselves. They will learn more about themselves by trying to understand each other.
As these two learn to communicate more effectively with each other, they will become better overall communicators. When they interact with new people in the future, they will have an easier time clearing up misunderstandings.
Solar Return
Mercury square the Ascendant during a solar return can indicate you may feel incredibly overwhelmed in the upcoming year. You may feel like something is disrupting your ability to communicate with others or express yourself.
Sometimes, your communication style will genuinely change this year, and adjusting to that will take some time. There might be temporary tension and misunderstandings as those around you get used to your new way of interacting.
You may also change some aspect of your appearance or identity, changing how others perceive you. It will take you a while to understand the change in perception, and you may not like it initially, even if you do like the changes you’ve made.
You might need to work to strike a better balance this year. If you become more confident and express yourself more assertively, you can sometimes go too far and become aggressive.
If you develop stronger opinions and express them, others may think you are combative. If you get out of your comfort zone and meet people with drastically different views, you may experience more conflict and misunderstandings.
Be patient with yourself and others this year. If you are going through changes, explain that to the people in your life. Don’t expect them to immediately understand what you’re going through if you don’t talk to them.
If you have unpleasant interactions with new people, sometimes you need to write them off. Not everyone you meet will like you, and that’s okay.
If you’re being true to yourself and attempting to communicate with respect and compassion, you will find people who appreciate you.
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